Virginity: girl vs boys

[Bakabwoy]

For most ppl, in this forum, it is the age where they began to mature into adulthood(or should I say, flips thier horny buttons on full blast:D) Being a virgin or not defines who you are according to your peers. How bad is the pressure getting and how do you think it differs between sex? Would you ever be open about your virginity and would it change if you are or not?
Note: I am not asking if you are or not a virgin, that is your personal info, I am just asking on your view.

[Veniogenesis]

Surprisingly, the pressure is not bad at all for me. My peers and I, some of whom may
not be virgins, don't define ourselves by virginity. I'm open about my virginity, and I
don't think affects us in any way. Well, okay. The whole problem is that all my friends
and I are geeks (or very close to being one). We're obviously not oblivious to sex, and
we're open about our virginity. Hmmm... >_>;

[Bakabwoy]

I'm pretty open about my self, but sadly too many retards around me to safely admit things. It's retarded how most guys around me boast about thier number and sexual patners, more partner=more risk. I rather have one great partner I can trust over mutiple random ppl which name you never remember. I had my share of good and bad, but I avoid random ppl, it's just not safe.

[flz9636]

yea it happen to me at pc room, all my friend talk about how many time have do it in one night with different girl. i dont really care that much about it but it kindna make me wanna doit too ^.^

[TaronWarrior]

If I were a virgin I wouldn't care who knew it. My motto's always been "if it doesn't affect me, it doesn't matter." So I don't care if you're a virgin or not. Doesn't matter. If some day I fall in love with a girl and decide to take that step with her, it might be handy info to know if she is or not, but only then does it really matter.

As for me. Wee. Who cares. I'd tell you if you asked, but I wouldn't go around bragging about it.

[panterna]

need more girls to vote on the poll..don't be shy..http://tcwozere.co.uk/smileys/peepwallA.gif

[TheException]

Maybe I would be embarassed if i was 30 years old and still a virgin...
Maybe I wouldn't be embarrassed if i was born paralyzed from the waist down...
Maybe I would be if I had Erectile Dysfunction...
Maybe I wouldn't be if I talked to the majority of people who had a "bad" first time...
Maybe I would if I actually had the opportunity (i.e: a girl comes to my room, says she wants me inside her...now!") and I still refused because I did not feel ready...

I think I would only care if my life was empty of sense and purpose, and if i had nothing to do but live in lies and dream worlds.

I don't care because I have other things to care about.

[LegendsEnd]

*sigh* my superior intellect has preserved my virginity...:P

[hkey]

I live in Iowa, USA, and all I can say is...

damn, we've had people in my high school lose their virginity as early as 8th grade. W T F? Man, I'm soo uncool these days... and pathetic... and ugly... and a loser... (*goes on his rants*)... Haha XD

I wouldn't mind participating in some...err... education activities. However, no matter what I will wear protection in the future, but if it is my future wife, anything goes ;) I think I've seen/read/heard enough about the harmful long lasting effects (and just the uptmost gross part of it) to make me puke and never have sex in my lifetime, rofl.

[TaronWarrior]

need more girls to vote on the poll..don't be shy..http://tcwozere.co.uk/smileys/peepwallA.gif
If you haven't noticed, there's a pretty severe ratio of guys to girls here. XD Like, 10:1, I'll bet.

[takahira]

If you haven't noticed, there's a pretty severe ratio of guys to girls here. XD Like, 10:1, I'll bet.

good point....

but really, it does come down to how we feel about it.... I don't really care.... but yea, if I am 40 n' still one, I think I will just go into a monastery and hide.... hahahahaha.... jokes....

[death6kouji]

I don't really care if my friends are virgin or not, as long as they don't bug me about it. :P I just turned into 20 and my friends always try to get me laid, but I refuse, because I'd like to keep it til my marriage. :)
I actually respect people who keep their virginity until their marriage, but it's just me that think virgins are hard to find nowaday. Because about 8 out of 10 frineds of mine already have had sex when they were in high school. But I am totally open to the idea of virginity and I encourage my friends to keep it. XD

[BOiNG!]

What about losing virginity to our own (or maybe someone's) fingers? Does that make a person not a virgin anymore? Please define virginity in this sense.

[demiurge]

I really don't care about being virgin or not. I mean, we're not in a soccer game, it's not about score, or about a golden goal. There are people (mostly during puberty, been there, know that) that are really obsessed about that. But virginity is not a tag, sooner or later everyone comes to notice that (i think).

While I don't care about the subject, I do care about telling to everyone. It's like, when a friend after one of those nights, goes and tells every one about how great it was, and how beautiful she is, and how well he "did it". It takes all the magic away, dogs do it just for the perpetuation of the species, we should do it for something more.

I could talk about it when it comes to help a friend feeling better, or when it's serious talk (really serious), but not to boast. I just feel that way.

My two cents.

PS: Girls should post more, It's nice to see both points of view.

[snackeater]

I whack off every damn day and I'm still a virgin, I need to get laid. At least my pals are all still virgins, and were all the same age (16, 17) so it makes me feel better about it.
To answer your question, I'm not very open about it, but if someone asks I'll tell them the truth.

[Roomie]

Ask yourself what is virginity. Also ask yourself what it means in society. Is "virginity" not just another lable to differentiate between those "experienced" in a certain aspect of life? You might as well ask if someone has a college degree or doesn't. Both are specific lables, but one means more to one age group than the other. How often do you think the topic "virginity" comes up at a luncheon with a group of 40 year olds? I'm willing to bet never, unless they have thier own kids asking them about it at home, and the discussion is about how to answer the question about the birds and the bees. So the lable "virginity" has no real value in any ones life, as long as your view on sex stands on a purely procreational basis. I mean come on (no pun intended), from that stand point who cares if you last 5 seconds or 5 hours, as long as it all has the same end result, copulation. First time, or 500th time, that's everyones goal in the end. ~ahem~ off my soap box now, sure, why not be open about it! I proudly lost my virginity at 16, and I know she wasnt satisfied at all when I finished ^.^

[waynetan]

most of my friends are really against pre-maritial sex, and they would just try to change the subject whenever sex is brought up... maybe they are shy... and from what i can gather, they dun play with their fingers either... i dun really care either... but i do play :)

[soutaku]

I don't think that I care either if I'm a virgin or not, but first times should be with someone you do care about. Maybe because its your first time and you want it to be special. :D

[Kitee]

If, I'm virgin.
I wouldn't go telling or bragging that I'm a virgin since it's a rare treasure to find virgins.
But if someone asked me seriously about it, I wouldn't be embarassed to say it.

[strike]

I'm not ashamed to be a virgin but I do care about it (the virginity thing anyway). I would prefer to have my first time with another virgin because I think it would be special as both partners would be learning together. To me a girl's value is cut in half when she is no longer a virgin (no offence it's just my preference but I heard for many other guys it's the same you just lost something or an experience which could only be given once to perhaps your true love [yes, I'm a believer])

P.S

Girls guard yourselves carefully there are many wolves out there that would leave you after they got what they wanted. (it's sad but true and because of it you may never attract the one who is truely for you)

[chompy]

pah.

peer pressure is non-existentfor me.

noone i know bugs me about my virginity 'cept my uncle.

he's always saying he's gonna get me a girl. (alot of people must think i'm gay aswell...)

i have no real desire to lose it, and no shame about it. i'm only 17 anyways...

[pawlee]

Yeah, it's too bad the chastity belt is no longer in use. :p

I certainly wouldn't base my choice of partner on whether or not they were a virgin, but as Taron said it would be useful information. So, I think it's important to be open and honest about virginity. Confusion and misinformation regarding this subject can lead to serious consequences.

[oink37]

"useful information"
show me your stats and I'll show mine :D
wow you've got the flexibility ability at +3, that's good...

Well, seriously who cares :p It's not like you gain anything when you lose it.

[Fieth]

Im 18 and still a virgin and im a guy, most the reason for that is that I have never had a girl friend. I was way too busy to bother with one in highschool, plus Im cheap, im not gunna go on dates cuz i spend all my money on games and anime. Plus highschool is just too full of drama, and id rather not get involved with that. Now im in college and have even less money to spend and there are about 20 girls at my school so that doesnt help much. Guess ill just have to wait and see what happens.

[h_4_x_0_r_1]

Damn, Fieth. That's my life story too, 'cept I'm 19 and not in college.

[PcReaperX23]

I am a devout Virgin For Life. I even have a hand gesture with it.

[superknarf]

For a guy losing ones virginity is NOTHING, you gain nothing (exept an occasional STD) and you lose nothing (exept maybe your hopes for the future...).
For a girl it's slightly different, but still it does not really matter.
Does it make you a better person? No, you stay exactly the same. Virginity is a typical society issue, people seem to think more of you when you've lost it, like it's some huge accomplishment. I think the whole concept is such utter bullcrap. It only matters when you do infact have sex, it's good to know if your partner is still a virgin, but only for that short time and not thereafter does it matter.

So why are people not open about it? Well obviously because people are ashamed that they are still virgins (I can only speak for the guys) Society thinks you are "less" in some way when you've still got it. I don't think it's something to be ashamed of though, it's only natural and eventually you'll lose it, no big deal. Right? *rants on and on and on*

-pantsu?-

[eerodin]

Generally speaking girls are proud to be virgins and boys are ashamed of it. Girls are afraid to lose it and only want to lose it to someone special while boys try to get rid of it as hard as possible.

Most guys will admit it but are nevertheless ashamed about it.

[Dechande]

I'll admit being a virgin. Not really ashamed of it, still get bugged about it from other people my age (most are asses anyway). I'm still a virgin because of my morals. I don't believe in sex before marriage. And I don't think I'll ever get married so...

[Maria Renard]

I think virginity for people is meant to be someone who still don

[Azstraph]

I wouldn't care much about it, when I do it I'll do it. I just hate it when others talk about it especially like yesterday when this girl mention about do it with her boyfriend right in the middle of me eating my lunch!!!

[Dechande]

Lose your appetite did you? :D

[eerodin]

Sex and food go hand-in-hand...

[Dechande]

I'm tempted to ask for an explanation how...

[Abicion]

I don't talk to people.

[wannabedamned]

When i was in school people who made fun of me got a right hook. So i was open about my virginity. I didnt care for other peoples thoughts. Simple as that. I'm still that way. not virgin... but i dont care if people dont like me. Or do like me for that matter

[Tigerofthewind]

Losing your virginity depends what time it is. In highschool, if it's a guy he's the man and can brag on and on for at least a few days. For a girl, nothing much. But gossip and ridicule depending on who she sleeps with and how many guys.

[Dechande]

Ahhh, now that brings back memories of good high school rumors. :D

[FreedomX15]

I don't really care....
in person...i'm the silent type, who's all ways in the back and in the shadows...
if i'm asked i'll tell...if not i'll remain silent.....If i don't like the person, i'll lie to his/her face...and for those who ask, i might lie for the fun of it, or play mind games....
like i did with some of my friends a while ago....made them think i was going to move far away...then i made it seem like i was going suicidal.....(It was hilarious to see their reactions)

[Toolix]

*sigh* my superior intellect has preserved my virginity...:P
Haha! That's comical gold! :D

Ahem... back on track. Depending on who it is, I wouldn't be that embarrassed :p Most of my friends are virgins as well, but I'm definitley feeling the pressure to get laid. Sometimes peer-pressure isn't always a bad thing, it can drive you into a challenge, such as having sexual intercourse with the female of the species. :D

[TheException]

[QUOTE=Maria Renard]I think virginity for people is meant to be someone who still don

[Shybal Noom]

my friends and i just joke about this all the time! lol, but we also know right and wrong like having sex in high school and destroy your life... maybe... the main reason is that im a freaking catholic! lol, and ill be damned to hell if i have pre-marital sex... lol o well, some things in life are worth waiting for!

[Chaotic Heavens]

I'm too young to have the "s" word... If I did it, people would think I'm crazy or my parents are bad people. And that's a no, no. I would get spanked. :(

Also, I'm Catholic, go to a Catholic high school. Don't really care. If I want, I could have sex with a random prostitute (live near city), but that would involve me getting my lazy ass off the chair in front of my computer. Sex just isn't that amazing to me yet.

[FreedomX15]

i'm pretty much in the same boat as u two, being catholic an all, cept i go to a normal public high school.... and my school is just messed up, every week, i'll hear atleast one conversation about this...

[Fieth]

Im catholic and I could care less what my religion says about pre-marital sex. I dont want to be stuck with someone that I dont enjoy having sex with, that would just well....suck. :p

[Maria Renard]

why some people think it

[Randomshinichi]

because if you get married you can only have sex with the person you're married to? just a thought...

[Maria Renard]

because if you get married you can only have sex with the person you're married to? just a thought...

and that

[oink37]

Is it the same to be
1) a mindless drone under peer pressure and jump the first girl you meet in the street
2) a mindless drone under religious/parental advisory pressure and waiting to be married
(these are two extremes, no one is specifically targeted here)

Like they say in serious debates : Discuss ! :D

[MrBunchy]

In my experance there is a Big difference between girls and guys when it comes to this topic......
Guys are way more open about it. Why you ask. I think it might have to do with the sigma of the whole girls likeing sex thing.
Also I would bet years befor a guy loses his, he will have plearsered himself many times. Makeing the act more just a formality that a real first time.
However for girls things are very different. In most cases skin has to be broken for the act to take place. Makeing the first experance a rather painfull one.....
Note:If I'm wrong please let me know. This is just the way i see it. :)

[PrinceKr85]

Is it the same to be
1) a mindless drone under peer pressure and jump the first girl you meet in the street
2) a mindless drone under religious/parental advisory pressure and waiting to be married
(these are two extremes, no one is specifically targeted here)

Like they say in serious debates : Discuss ! :D
I'd say that just about sums it up...

As in my case, even though Christians preach that you should remanin "pure" (i put that in quotes for a reason), there is nothing much in the bible that points to the fact that you have to... granted there are Hebrew traditions, and stuff... the only thing that you can point to is adultury (i can't spell worth a dang here.. :D )

So, even though i go to church two times a week... i really don't care much about it (my virginity).. i'd rather go do the real thing than watch repetitive porn all day long.. :D

[oink37]

So, even though i go to church two times a week... i really don't care much about it (my virginity).. i'd rather go do the real thing than watch repetitive porn all day long.. :D

Didn't the priest tell you ? your thing will rotten twice as fast if you watch pr0n instead of doing the real thing before mariage.. :D

[S&T Kawaii Love]

Sure I will be open about my virginity. With a girl who I would be going with that is :p. Why not? I don't like lying. The saying goes that guys think about sex more then girls. My opinion on this is; that you have to wait with sex after you are sure that you found the right girl/guy. Makes sence right?

Too much people start too early on this matter, and that is so wrong. I am not saying that love on first sight is not possible. But you have to really overthink what you are doing and be mature enough to decide together what you want. Also waiting for sex untill you are married is a noble and respectfull thing to do :)

[eerodin]

Waiting for sex until you are married is indeed a respectful thing to do, but since I believe in neither christianity nor marriage I'd not even consider it for myself. Making love and having sex are two different things, while the first is mere physical contact with another and something anyone can give to oneself with his/her magical hands the latter is something more. Making love is more of a mental experience that reaches it's fullest when having sex with the one you love.

Making love = good
Having sex = bad

[TheException]

Making love = good
Having sex = bad

I'm sorry I have to bring a correction.

Making Love = WONDERFUL ^^
Having sex = can be good to very good at times (sometimes it's just a biological need, no need to accomplish great things while doing it....just need to release the pressure) but it can also be bad.

[oink37]

It's all in your mind, what you do of your experiences ;)

[Maria Renard]

I'm sorry I have to bring a correction.

Making Love = WONDERFUL ^^
Having sex = can be good to very good at times (sometimes it's just a biological need, no need to accomplish great things while doing it....just need to release the pressure) but it can also be bad.

agreed :)

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[Hentai_starvation]

For a guy virgin or not it's just doesn't matter because most people wouldn't know how to tell. For a girl not bleeding during sex is pretty easiy to tell.

[ChibiFirli]

Making Love = WONDERFUL ^^
Having sex = can be good to very good at times (sometimes it's just a biological need, no need to accomplish great things while doing it....just need to release the pressure) but it can also be bad.
I could go without the second one...
Meh, without the first one as well :D:p.
Is there actually anything that's so different about being virgin or not that it should be important? (this is a serious question :p, I've never really noticed any difference, but maybe that's just me)

[Maria Renard]

I could go without the second one...
Meh, without the first one as well :D:p.
Is there actually anything that's so different about being virgin or not that it should be important? (this is a serious question :p, I've never really noticed any difference, but maybe that's just me)

you

[ChibiFirli]

[QUOTE=Maria Renard]you

[Maria Renard]

you still don

[Rarebit]

When the mighty Saggoroth breaks free of his sleep beyond the eternal veil of Chubbnur-upon-Starbreak, he shall have his way with every man, woman and child, making trivial issues such as "virginity" unimportant in the long term.

[ChibiFirli]

[QUOTE=Maria Renard]you still don

[oink37]

They have the "broken seal void warranty" seal placed at critical areas :D

[Rarebit]

is there any noticable effect for any gender with the loss of virginity (excepting the physical effect :p)?


You gain the ability to contribute the clever and biting "You're a virgin, aren't you?" to any internet discussion.

[tonkins]

Dont forget that they gain a smug look on their face, as though theyre so much superior to the rest of us

[Renzon]

For a guy virgin or not it's just doesn't matter because most people wouldn't know how to tell. For a girl not bleeding during sex is pretty easiy to tell.

That's a misconception that, I assume, many Arab women have to worry about. It's through no fault of their own or them initially trying to deceive their partner into thinking they are virgins, but some women don't bleed during their first time.

As for the warranty void seal (clever ;) ), they don't have to be sexually active for their hymen not to be in place. A female friend of mine told me that some women can have their hymens broken just by being active in sports. They don't get injured down there or have anything done to them in that area, but they may one day be examined and be told that their hymen's broken.

As for me, I'm a virgin and it only bothered me once (as I recall) when I spoke to someone about it. Other than that it's never bothered me to tell someone I'm "pure" as I've been called. :D I only address it when the subject comes up, but I think many guys are pressured to not be virgins. It doesn't really matter who you're talking to. In some cases if you, as a guy, say you're a virgin you're then asked "why" as though having sex is much like advancing the next grade in school. At one point I worried that some girls may view it as weird that a guy at 23 is still a virgin like it's expected that you got rid of that pesky thing.

There was a show called "The Radio Chick" out here in NY and one day they had a 24 year old guy on the show and he was looking to lose his virginity. It could have been a gimmick, but I doubt it. Anyway, when they brought him on the show they questioned why he was still a virgin at 24. The questions pretty much involved hygiene, or whether or not girls found him attractive. About now, that guy would be around 30. It disturbed me that being a virgin at 24 was considered strange. I don't know where it comes from, but it's just added pressure for someone to rush into something that they would otherwise not rush into.

I don't believe it would be good for me to have sex before marriage. The number of stories I heard regarding people doing it before marriage had me think it was better to wait. I've heard stories of girls keeping a guys condom after they were done so they could impregnate themselves when their lover had left for home. Some times it was because they felt the relationship was coming to an end and they wanted to keep the guy around, or they wanted the money that would come with child support. Also having to deal with your girlfriend's period being late also makes you panic because you realize in that time that you're not ready to take on that kind of responsibility. I don't ever want to be under that kind of stress especially when even at 23, I still don't know all that I want to do with my life much less a newborn kid.

I didn't mean to go into all that. Sorry about that. *steps off soapbox*

[Maria Renard]

They have the "broken seal void warranty" seal placed at critical areas :D

where do boys have their seal? :D

Gao~!

[oink37]

It's a color-changing seal reacting to vaginal phlegm pH, placed in an "exposed" area :p

gao ? :D

[Bakabwoy]

where do boys have their seal? :D

Gao~!
You really want to know? :D

[Maria Renard]

eto... I guess it

[oink37]

Maria is a shy girl... :p

[chompy]

Real girls just cant compete with the one's in my head/games/anime

(sorry)

they are cuter, nicer, and perfect. the only drawback is they are lines of ink.

goddamn i hate photoshop. it's ****ed up anime and manga forever...

what is wrong with drawing by hand?????

(off topic)

would you buy some virgin tea?

[maryanne]

This whole peer pressure and the whole outlook on the matter is really regional I think. I mean, I'm an asian. From where I am it is okay to be a virgin. In fact it is weird if your are not. In fact I find that some of my friends would be ashamed to say that they had done it. In fact I think they would lie that they are. But different from western society where they would find it strange to be a virgin after a certain age.
I'm not saying that people don't do it here, cause I know they do but they don't openly admit it. I'm talking in general of course.
As for me.. I believe in marriage and the whole thing but that doesn't make me think that people shouldn't do it before marriage. I'm open to everyone's preferences.. All in all, I would end with, Love Rules!!

[Tigerofthewind]

Don't get your hopes up on marriage to much. Half of all North American families are divorced. But in NA, it's weird. People will have sex just for the sake of having sex. My friend in highschool did it in the summer before grade 11 and was bragging about it to everyone even though the fact that he did sleep with a complete whore who got caught doing it with one of the guys off the basketball team. Also there were these parties in the woods sometimes during the summer and sometimes the next day after I'd hear about some girl gave some guy a blowjob that night.

[RyougaSaotome]

Meh, I'm virgin and I'm proud of it. :p

[Para]

I think that virginity is overrated in the case that sex is a very natural act.

[KaizerSpirit]

I guess in countries which still more or less carry Asian morals and codes of conducts, stuff like that, it would be less common to talk about whether you're a virgin or not. Not that we don't talk about "Sex: The Final Frontier and Beyond" *insert "ooooooo" sound clip*, but it's just that if you want to share that you're a virgin, you do, if you don't, you don't. Just that simple.
There is hardly any peer pressure to lose your virginity for guys and people do not get a pat on their back for getting laid. For girls of my age, not to be a virgin is is tough thing, people are constantly pointing fingers and gossiping behind your back. And it's sad, because they don't deserve getting called the names they do. It's unfair, yes.
And if you do have sex with someone, for both parties, it'd be getting serious emotionally as well. Of course there are your typical overloaded testosterone jock and their female counterparts who go for anything of the opposite sex that moves but they are more or less the minority.

[Renzon]

I think that virginity is overrated in the case that sex is a very natural act.

I'm not surprised you said that. In fact I think I was waiting for someone to say that it was overrated.

It may be overrated for some, but with how many diseases going around I think the idea of someone (in my case a female) being a virgin is preferable. It's already too easy to get something like herpes through sharing a drink with someone (simplex 1 - for the mouth, not genital). Contraceptives are, at best, 99% effective and the prospect of that 1% chance of catching a venereal(sp?) disease is much to great for me.

[oink37]

....
So if you're not married to that woman, and both of you go another path, does that mean both of you are "unsafe" because you're not virgins anymore ? ... And a girl can tell you anything, besides. A condom and HIV/Hepatitis test to go further are your best weapons against the most deadly STDs.

[Renzon]

....
So if you're not married to that woman, and both of you go another path, does that mean both of you are "unsafe" because you're not virgins anymore ? ... And a girl can tell you anything, besides. A condom and HIV/Hepatitis test to go further are your best weapons against the most deadly STDs.

I didn't say that, but that doesn't mean it can't be true.

HIV doesn't show up in results of testing until about 6 months later if I remember correctly. HIV testing may have changed so that you can find out sooner, but let's assume that the first sentence is accurate.

Now because contraceptives aren't 100% effective there's a small chance that someone may contract the HIV virus. If they contract it they may have maybe more than 2 partners within that 6 month period. During that 6 month period they don't know that they have HIV and if anything goes wrong they may pass it on to someone else. Then their partner may become a carrier that could potentially carry the virus to someone else.

Now I'll state again that having sex with someone doesn't make them unsafe, but it doesn't mean they are safe. The sad thing about this is it doesn't matter how safe you try to be. No matter how many safeguards you have the fact that you participate in intercourse puts you at risk.

Keep in mind I'm not preaching abstinence. I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea here. I just believe in it enough to practice it because as I said, there are too many diseases going around that don't require intercourse to contract them. It's bad enough to wonder about them, I don't need any other headaches until I'm married.

[oink37]

Then it's about abstinence itself and not about having a virgin partner (that's what I misunderstood :p). The hiv test has effectively no meaning if it's not a relationship lasting long enough (usually it takes 3 month to be "HIV-detectable"), therefore condom then 2 hiv tests. I saw too many "rational" people (these freaking students are part of the health management system, but they can be f*cking stupid...) doing stupid things to believe in anything else :)

[SouL DraGooN]

It doesnt really bother me in the slightest. I'm 20 and still a virgin, and so are some of my friends. But I guess thats because we are all losers and cant talk to girls worth crap... :D

[Drawing Guy]

A condom is protection against STDs?!? You live in an interesting world... as a condom stops STDs as well as a sieve stops water. While a condom is solid enough to stop your sperm, HIV and basically any other STD can pass right through as they can easily pass through the "gaps"... nothing is "solid"... even atoms are composed of mostly air, but stretched latex rubber has those "gaps" large enough that they are easily passed by viruses. Thus a condom is simply a protection (and not even a perfect one at that) against getting a girl pregenant. The only protection against STDs is abstinance. I personally am a virgin, and plan on remaining so until I'm married. At that point, I'd love my wife so much I wouldn't care if she had HIV.

[hyde69]

well is nothing big losing it, and i dont care if other still are is not like im making friends with their virginity and right now i havent been with a girl for a while~ just because your not the pimp type dont meant your a loser..
and since now technology has advanced there is more people to stay at home than going to raves.
i like it this way im always calm with my self and dont need to worry about someone else. one thing for sure ill make sure i get a wife that has the sames likes as i do. :)

[oink37]

A condom is protection against STDs?!? You live in an interesting world... as a condom stops STDs as well as a sieve stops water. While a condom is solid enough to stop your sperm, HIV and basically any other STD can pass right through as they can easily pass through the "gaps"... nothing is "solid"... even atoms are composed of mostly air, but stretched latex rubber has those "gaps" large enough that they are easily passed by viruses. Thus a condom is simply a protection (and not even a perfect one at that) against getting a girl pregenant. The only protection against STDs is abstinance. I personally am a virgin, and plan on remaining so until I'm married. At that point, I'd love my wife so much I wouldn't care if she had HIV.

Condom is a protection against std
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pubs/facts/condoms.htm

I believe more in the Center for Disease Control than you, sorry. May I know where you fetched the fact that it protect against, well, nothing ???
You should take a little time to check what the person who spread such information has for bias.

[arabias]

Its said that you tune in, turn on, and you drop out. But there are paths in life where
the virginity issue exists as a nagging reminder of what could have been, but then, never
was and never will. A tuning in of different kind, when young, took the video games, and the
books, music maybe, never having time for religion, not that you'd care, and so the years pass,
you drop out, from the very start. A few friends maybe, just as disconnected, the endless vistas
of dreams, commercial and otherwise, you live inside imaginations that other people made, in
physicality always present but absent in mind, elsewhere, you pass the grades and do the
chores, the life never quite touching you, and likewise you never quite belonging anywhere there,
the surround sees you as the odd one out, never quite figuring you, as there is no communication,
no words that both could understand, no style of agreement -- yet they are so easy to figure to you,
yet so difficult, of a different kind. You see too clearly, their lacking in wits, personality, just inferior,
broken pieces of versions that you have already seen perfected in the works of fiction. And so the
years go as you wade the second-order realities, and the sex never gets forced on you; maybe you
adapted a habit suiting your lifestyle, of the modern hermit, unappealing, unrecognized, passing
unnoticed, living in the same world, but the people on the streets - so different in their spheres.
One could have been one, but never was. Always was, sort of, too dismal, too self-centered,
too busy in the worlds apart from the world. You watch the monsters do their antics and the
drawn tears of an anime character. And try to compare, to recollect from the days of youth,
the antics of others you saw, maybe at school, having their go at life... and you wonder if their
dramas were like that on the screen, if their angst was as great, if their reasons were as
good ... Maybe it was, for them. But for you ... no. Took a different road, so long before,
couldn't see it like they saw. Did it all in your dreams, king of the world, a nobody in a gutter,
felt the pain of the betrayed, and rode the rivers of guro ... anything. In perfect safety,
never quite touching it, faded, meanwhile, from the old world, a virgin - among other things.

[eerodin]

Condom is the best protection against pregnancy and diseases there is, except for surgeons. But why would someone have sex with someone they know has a disease anyway?? Those who just have sex with people they don't even know, well, they can only blame themselves if they get a disease.

[ong.inw]

what was wrong for being vergin ?

[eMKa]

I lost my virginity on the graduation party 2 years ago,so I don't have to care about it anymore:)

[Psycho Mantis]

This poll is extremly one sided.Are there no girls on this forum?Or are they too small to count?By the way,mmmkl.I love that "Im a male,and im proud of it".Great sentence.
Im a virgin,women should be more open to having sex.

[burnout]

i find it that it's a general rule to boast about your lost virginity after 18 years old. those who didnt get laid yet tends to stay far far away from the topic

[cyress8]

rofl i guess ill admit it if was but huh were the thing for people who aren't at all we want a say in the matter at least
*EDIT XD I was pwn3d by burnout guess ill shrink my sig a little

[Rarebit]

stake through the goddamn heart

[ressurrector]

I have never hidden the fact that I am a virgin.
Sometimes I even joke about it, I'm 18, in college, in Netherlands (prostitution is legal, morals about sex are a bit looser than Cali where I'm from), and never even had a gf. (closest I ever got was being that guy that's "just friends" who girls complain to or ask for school help)

Personally I don't mind, and I don't think I've ever been razzed about it (except my dad who jokes that I should go get laid sometime).
Possibly it's because of where I went to highschool, possibly it's because nobody ever saw me as someone who would loose their virginity without paying for it, possibly I don't give a damn.

And btw, I wouldn't care if I married someone who wasn't a virgin, or if I lost my virginity to someone I cared about who wasn't a virgin. I'd rather be with someone I care about who's had 100s of partners than someone I don't care about that has had 0. Virginity isn't a factor in my eyes.

[tenjouten]

Yup, I agree with resurrector... we jus don't give a damn

[kingofheart]

I am a virgin...:)

[Ridelle]

This poll is extremly one sided.Are there no girls on this forum?Or are they too small to count?
Resident female here. Not a virgin, though, since I have myself a son and all. C'mere, Max!

[Rarebit]

WHOOP-DI-****

break out the party streamers, girls, we've got a virgin!

[AncientPC]

Depends on your age. Admitting you're a virgin at 16 is a lot different than admitting you're a virgin at 35.

[Ray7en]

It's not surprising that the majority of guys here poll for the first choice. Yeah, truthfully.. The polling really need more girls.

*Edit:

Depends on your age. Admitting you're a virgin at 16 is a lot different than admitting you're a virgin at 35.
I totally agree. XD~

[Azure Sky]

Where is all the girls in this, i cant really make a comment since only 3 girls talked.

[Tortured-x]

personally i think virginity is something to be held highly, it's more for two people that love each other enough to share their bodies.
infact i am sorry alot of the time that i lost mine at my 14th birthday

[garrou]

I cant believe the responses here.Maybe if there were more women to impress,there would be a reason to act like sex wasnt important.This is an issue not to be taken lightly and i feel that its been made fun of.You guys that say it doesnt matter,you should be ashamed of your self.Women arent stupid.They can look at your avatar and see alll the perversion in it that you thought wouldnt be outwardly noticable.Or do you all wish to be girls?
Anyways ,just tell the truth. You guys are a bunch of horndogs who,i bet, wouldnt pass up the chance to have sex if the chance came up.
LADIES:DONT BELIEVE THE LIES OF THE ONE EYES!!!!!!!!!!

[saber1357]

Simply stated...being a virgin blows T_T

[antares_chan]

The only problem about virginity is when people start bragging about it, whether it's about "you're already xx-age and STILL virgin?" or "you should wait till you're married".
Sex is one of the mos intimate things you can do and no one should preach much about it. Information is fine (sex can be dangerous after all), but telling others what to do, and specially not saying that being a virgin is "better" than not being one is not.
Sex is one of the most pleasant things in the world if done responsibly, but it's intimate too. I really don't give a damn if my friends (guys or gals) have done it or not, we have more interesting topics for conversation.

Anyway, I'm a girl and old too (23) so my opinion probably doesn't even count...

[Dracil]

Being a virgin is *good*. It's basically a badge saying "I'm guaranteed STD-free"

[ri-chan]

I don't care if someone is virgin or not.

it annoyes me that one of my friends says things like "he's 18 and STILL virgin, I mean come on". what does it matter?! I think sex is something you should first do when your ready, and not just to "try it out".
I don't think you should be ashamed if your still a virgin, (girl OR guy)

also, I think it is something that is very intimate, and I realy hate it when people are telling everyone how many girls/guys they have been sleeping with, that they got another one last night, if someone was "good" or not. I don't even want to know.
(don't know about you, but I realy didn't like it when my friend (same as above, a girl btw), started telling a lot of details during LUNCH, or when some of the guys keep making sick jokes about such things) keep it for yourself will you? you can realy hurt someone with that.


basicaly: it doesn't matter if your a virgin or not, no need to be ashamed of it to. but sex is a private thing, so keep it private to ;)

[miyavi]

Well ri-chan, those people can be jokeing, because I hear that everyday, whether is about someones mom or girlfriend. There all jokes! I think you should get down with the person you really feel, and not just to get it.

[ri-chan]

most of them are jokes, yeah I know.

but I've heard "jokes" that are based on a real person to. thats what I hate.
(I've got nothing against some ecchi jokes, realy)

[ommseti]

I figured I'd post a female opinion. :o) Since I've been married for about four and a half years, you can guess that I'm not, but I don't mind saying that I did wait until I was married. And because of that, I have a lot of respect for other people who are able to hold off, too, because it takes a lot of guts and courage and being comfortable with yourself and who you are, and it takes a lot of patience and understanding from your significant other, especially if they don't share your views.

People are never too old to be nosy and disparaging about other people's lovelives. There were people who were practically total strangers who would come up to him and demand to know why we hadn't slept together. ^_^;;; (They never had the guts to confront me about it, heh.)

I had read something where a comedian had a joke... "Sex is like air. It's only a big deal if you're not getting any."

Sex itself isn't such a big deal. But context is important, and when it's in the wrong context, it's a bad thing, which is why people blow gaskets over things like infidelity and sixth-grade prostitutes. I saved myself a lot of grief, when a lot of my friends were catching STD's, having babies while they were still in high school, the emotional and physical damage from abortion, and all that... and if I had to do it over again, I'd go the same way. :o) And I'd recommend it for guys, too, because I hate double-standards, especially sexual ones. :o)

[shintai_88]

although is true that most of the people here are either going through the phase of maturity and puberty, but i doubt alot of us will just jump in to bed with anyone without thinking.

[DarkDweller]

Most guys are open about it and dont really care about their virginity but to girls it means something, it really means something. They wont always openly admit it but to them them its special

[ValkyrieSkuld]

I would be shamed if i had to tell i wan't a virgin anymore...
People will ask me when i did it and with who -_-;;

I'm shy when talking about sex in real life (even with friends)...
Soo...i'm still virgin (maybe forever)...AND a capricorn hehe

[necronzero]

If I were a virgin I wouldnt hide it, fortunately that's not my problem so i got nothing to worry about,

[kevinlmw]

i am a virgin and a lot of my friend too, i mean..... what a BIG deal of being a virgin? does it a bother?

sure, there are some people say Huh? you now still a virgin?? then i just say` LOL it not like being a virgin will die or sick... i just haven`t found a person that i truly love,
that all.

and yea, sometime if you were frank even it comes to H. other people will not shy and comfortable talking to you about anything^.^

[noxy]

hm, being a male, 23, my opinion is slightly different.
u'll see that when it comes to relations, sex IS important. it doesnt define the couple or makes it better but it CAN make things go terribly WRONG.
boys : they just don't care about being a virgin or not, they will have sex when they do have the chance and they like the other person. for most of them they'll want more :p
girls : ouch, that's another problem. they will hold on for most of them till they think they love the other person. nice but most of the time they wont even stay with the boyfriend. that said, my opinion is that waiting till marriage is WRONG : what if u see that u just dont enjoy it, u are disgusted of it and of the husband at the same time ? u'll try to live with it but in the end u'll just be unhappy or it will create problems.
whatever ppl can say sex is part of a couple, sooner or later, so it better be good right ? in the end we are still animals and our instinct is to REPRODUCE. yeah it might sound weird but that's life u cant avoid it.
now think about this : would u rather have sex before marriage, have some experience and have a good marriage, that thing being cleared ? or hold on and take the bet that it will be alright ?
still having sex for your first time with another virgin is the nicest thing to do but I ve seen ppl break up just because they were not sexually compatible.

PS: the answer most guys would give is that they would hide the fact they are virgins (depends on the age of course - 17+). society is like that, there is nothing wrong with it, we'r just mere humans.

[Renzon]

Why would it be wrong to wait till marriage? There are plenty of good points as to why it may be better. Main point is generally you're free of most if not all STDs.

I'm not saying that people who do have sex before marriage aren't free of STDs, but the fact is people will think they would be safer with you than they might be with someone else.

Keep in mind I'm not trying to insult anyone, but I've heard people say doing it before marriage allows you to have practice before marriage. I just find that silly. At least come right out and say you're doing it because you like it or it makes you feel good. Don't hide behind some weak excuse.

Frankly I think too many use it to further the relationship beyond the point it should last or use it too soon so as to foster a deeper connection that may not exist without it. There are plenty of couples out there who have fostered deep connections with their better half without sex. Their relationships are usually better for it. Sex isn't the main concern or even secondary. It becomes something to share between two people who deeply love each other.

Finally, the reproduction part -I think- has a lot more to do with the marriage aspect than the dating aspect. Marriage seems to carry with it a condition of a long-lasting partnership. Each member of the marriage doesn't see themselves moving on to someone else so bearing a child and raising the child is fine.

When you're dating, however, I doubt many want children at that point. The child becomes a burden. Someone that tethers the parents to one another when they really want to go their separate ways. Raising a child in this situation brings a lot of problems which usually leaves a big mark on the developing child.

Maybe it's the idealist in my talking, but I feel it's important for me to wait till marriage. Foster that deep connection and then not use sex, but let it be a natural part of the relationship that occurs.

Disclaimer: This is just my opinion. If I offended anyone please understand that it wasn't my intention. :)

[noxy]

about STDs : USE CONDOMS ! the ones not doing that are just plain stupid. even with someone u think he/she is "safe". till u make a test u cant be sure!
sorry if i shock a few ppl beliefs or somethin but i just cant stand it when ppl even think about having sex without that protection.
now without the STDs excuse is the "reproduction" part - love being the only thing i can agree with as of why would ppl not have sex before marriage. (even though i cant really define love properly).
Marriage is only an artifice, a creation humans came up with. so forget about marriage, we still follow our instincts to reproduce, being just a couple dating is enough to drive us down that path. i agree everyone is different and some ppl will be able to repress themselves better than others.
bah. have sex if u enjoy it, marry if u want to. have sex then marry, marry then have sex. there are no rules down here in this world, marriage is just "another point of view" to me.
well, thats what i think, u might call me a perverted decadent european but thats who i am. :p

[Tigerofthewind]

Good for you. You'll be one of the proud few that actually deserve to be wearing the white dress.

Let's just hope you two don't end up like Nick & Jessica.

[Shin Odin]

can't really understand why some guys are ashamed being a still virgin even after high school...

although, some are even ashamed to admit that they lost theirs in an early stage(I lost mine when I was 15, bad experiance, don't ask)...

Keeping one's virginity is important for some people and we should respect them for it. I meant, would anyone prefer a whore/bastard to break their virginity rather than the person whom they want to be with forever?

[Miyashi]

well... i did rather keep it to someone i want to be with forever :)

20s and still a virgin wasnt that bad...

30s? err.... donno x__x

[serpent of the abiss]

im a virgin, and im not really looking forward to sex, to me it doesnt seem like it would be amazingly enjoyable

[MrWiseman]

I'm 22 and a virgin, and I'm not afraid to let people know. I'm engaged and will be getting married next year, We've agreed that our first time will be when we consummate the marriage.
There are many ways to have sex without losing virginity, aren't there? ;)


im a virgin, and im not really looking forward to sex, to me it doesnt seem like it would be amazingly enjoyable
You need more hentai :D

[berserkfury101]

the whole sex thing and virginity thing never was a priority in my life so i never relly cared if anyone knew i was a virgin or not i have always been more focused towards achieving my pre determined goals so while all my friends were screwing away their brain cells i focused on my work and now i own a law firm and have commmited relationship and they work at burger king aint life great :D

[berserkfury101]

Whether you have sex before 30 or not should not alter who you are, so why not remain a virgin until you meet someone special?

damn a thirty year old virgin cmon jinjin dont you think staying a virgin till thirty will either kill your sex drive altogether or the opposite make you a raving sexual lunatic, storing the desire to be with a woman for thirty years after whatching hentai and porn i believe will alter you in some way :D . i guess we are all still to young to know how that feels though :p

[gvbn]

well i'm a virgin and
it's quite obvious so
i don't have to admit
or lie :p

[serpent of the abiss]

To have sex or to explore sex. ;) But too much sex can be a distraction. Sex has always been something I wanted, but not something I needed. Like berserkfury101, I prioritized my goals before sex. Hence I am an Astrophysicist today, while many of my childhood friends are soccer moms and professional housekeepers.


Occasional hentai and role-playing is can be a very good thing. ;)


Whether you have sex before 30 or not should not alter who you are, so why not remain a virgin until you meet someone special?


If your belief permits. then perhaps you need to let go of your fears by beginning with The Joys of Masturbation (http://www.bettydodson.com/maymast.htm). It is understandable to fear sex with strangers, but you shouldn't be fearful of sex after you have married you special person.

i have masturbated alot but become tired of it :) i just dont think sex will be a hell of alot different even if your in love, dont get me wrong i do like romance

[berserkfury101]

i have masturbated alot but become tired of it :) i just dont think sex will be a hell of alot different even if your in love, dont get me wrong i do like romance

dont be fooled sex with some one you love is heaven it doesnt feel shamefull like masturbation and if you love the person you wont wake up in the morning hoping not to see their face.

[serpent of the abiss]

dont be fooled sex with some one you love is heaven it doesnt feel shamefull like masturbation and if you love the person you wont wake up in the morning hoping not to see their face.

youve kind of reminded me of the reason why i liked the thought of sex in the first place, i suppose i forget, because i kind of gave up on love a bit, well thankyou :D i suppose its someone you adore in all ways, there completely flawless and you can express your love for them and hold them in your arms when you have finished and just enjoy your relationship

[Psycho Mantis]

im a virgin, and im not really looking forward to sex, to me it doesnt seem like it would be amazingly enjoyable

Amen to that brother. :)

From my first post in this thread,way back months ago.Im actually a bit scared of having sex now,with all the STD`s out there now.Women are full of them,and could give them to a man when having sex.That does bother me..

[berNERD]

i didn't care much about it when i was a virgin. but i was kinda embarassed that, here i was, almost 21, and still a virgin. but it didn't matter, cuz i found the right girl and we have been patient about when will the be right time. we were both virgins.

[Tetsuya]

i didn't care much about it when i was a virgin. but i was kinda embarassed that, here i was, almost 21, and still a virgin. but it didn't matter, cuz i found the right girl and we have been patient about when will the be right time. we were both virgins.
Me too, I didnt care if ppl know I was a virgin back then. Every one around me was so in a rush to lose there virginity. Look what happen to them, many of my friends became parents before they were 18. I admit I was a virgin 4 months ago.

[GrayFox2510]

Afraid of admiting I'm a virgin? No, not really.
Quite frankly I was never one to care much about what people think of me, but yeah, these are scary times in regards to STDs propagation...

I have a girlfriend, but we both aren't rushing at all, besides, we both are on the mindset of trying to wait for marriage, for x or y reason. *Shrugs*

Then again, when someone decides to go into the world of sex or when not to is entirely up to that person, so who are we judge other people. ;p

[MuffDiver99019]

guys wants to get rid of it ASAP, girls wanst to hold it as long as possible until the right guy comes.

[Zone]

I'm a virgin and damn proud about it. I could've had myself with easily taken drunk girls but I don't or something in that direction, one night stands, etc. It's just not me.

[BruceKO]

U know what!?!?!?!
I'm a 40 year old virgin and I'm damn hawt :D:D:D

[CompNerdWannaBe]

Maybe I would be embarassed if i was 30 years old and still a virgin...
Maybe I wouldn't be embarrassed if i was born paralyzed from the waist down...
Maybe I would be if I had Erectile Dysfunction...
Maybe I wouldn't be if I talked to the majority of people who had a "bad" first time...
Maybe I would if I actually had the opportunity (i.e: a girl comes to my room, says she wants me inside her...now!") and I still refused because I did not feel ready...

I think I would only care if my life was empty of sense and purpose, and if i had nothing to do but live in lies and dream worlds.

I don't care because I have other things to care about.

I totally agree. There are many other things in life that are bigger then the question of virginity. Back in my high school days (1 year ago), virginity was something no one really cared about because it seems almost everyone had experienced sexual intercourse already so it has become a norm. The only people who did care were the faculty (of course) and the people who treated virginity as something sacred. Me personally, I don't really care about virginity, sex earlier or sex later is the same to me, the only difference is probably the state of mind a person is in at the age of 16 or whatever, compared to the state of mind of someone who is 25, forsay. Then there are other things that tie into that state of mind like reputation and life in general. Oh no, I rambled on again... >.<

[lordvr]

Soon to be a 23 year old virgin. Hell, atashi no faasuto kisu mo mada desuu.

[wootwoor]

Im 23 and still a virgin. I have never had a girlfriend in my entire life. The good girl to whore ratio is too low where I live. That keeps my chances way down. I would like to hook up with a virgin myself but at this day and age thats almost impossible since most girls around here lose it before they get out of high school. I'm waiting for marriage but if I meet someone special that I know will eventually lead to marriage then it will probably be sooner. I have already decided that if I dont have someone by the age of 30, I would just go ahead and adopt children since its the thing i want the most...a family.

Also girls are somewhat surprised that i am a virgin. And most dont believe that i am.

[Ikuneji]

I have many experiences w/ my ex-girlfriend in my but still im a virgin.. :)

[Kipaap]

i am so embarrased about being a virgin you won't beli.....wait i don't really care about it i mean if i'd have the opportunity to lose it yeah of course but i would but i'd do the same even if i wasn't a virgin anymore

[Renzon]

Im 23 and still a virgin. I have never had a girlfriend in my entire life. The good girl to whore ratio is too low where I live. That keeps my chances way down. I would like to hook up with a virgin myself but at this day and age thats almost impossible since most girls around here lose it before they get out of high school. I'm waiting for marriage but if I meet someone special that I know will eventually lead to marriage then it will probably be sooner. I have already decided that if I dont have someone by the age of 30, I would just go ahead and adopt children since its the thing i want the most...a family.

Also girls are somewhat surprised that i am a virgin. And most dont believe that i am.

Almost like looking in a mirror. I'm the same way except that even if I felt sure I'd eventually marry my intended I wouldn't do it until the "I do's" are mentioned.

[xspeed]

I'm a virgin and keeping it that way till marriage. I don't want to do some girl where a guy already put his woody in. It's kind of nasty if you think about it.

[Conrad]

Arrrrr....
Mostly male doesn't fuss about virginity, womens do!

[nuts]

A guy would always like to be a girl's first sex partner. A girl would prefer to be a guy's last. At least that seems to be the case from my experience.

Anyway, back in the days when I was working shipboard, I always tell my young sailors it's better to have a girl (or more) in every port of call when they're still young and single, then stay ashore and faithful when they're married. Guess I'll tell my kids the same in the future.

Better that than to stay faithful all the way till marriage, then start wondering how the other women feels like in bed. :D

[Ollin2027]

well where i go to school i got lots of friends that compare numbers i give people crap about if they have or have not had sex, so i live in a not so mature place.

[MrWiseman]

A guy would always like to be a girl's first sex partner. A girl would prefer to be a guy's last. At least that seems to be the case from my experience.Not rly. I personally don't mind which number I am. Besides, the first time is usually not that great.

[nuts]

Ah, we're progressing in terms of sexual equalities if the majority starts thinking that, imo. :D

[Cataulin]

It dosent matter to me, but that lucky lady is in for the biggest dissapointment in her life..............


BWWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[nuts]

It dosent matter to me, but that lucky lady is in for the biggest dissapointment in her life..............


BWWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Sounds sad. You cant get it up? :p

J/K

[Cataulin]

No im a virgin............

[nuts]

Cheer up,

you'll be disappointed to know that none of the ladies I know of was ever disappointed by knowing their bf is virgin. :D

Ladies usually dig guys willing to learn, as far as I know. Unless they're in the mood for being roughed up (in bed, not beating them senseless).

[animeking210]

well . . .
I mind as confess . . .
well Ill put it this way. . .
Im a 19 year old virgin.
still Ill wait . . . till the ends of time

<and with that the animeking goes to hide under his bed from the sex hungry,(and Ill use the term loosely) of the world>

[Pernan]

I'm a virgin and i have no problem with anyone knowing, because i don't think of sex as a matter of pride. This reminds me of a recent movie called "The 40 year old virgin", as if being a virgin at that age is something to be embarrassed about, as far as i'm concerned i'm sure i'll be a virgin all my life, i don't care.

[Tmoo]

i view sex as both enjoyable and a necessity. but i'm in no rush to go knock up a girl.

and no, being a virgin is not embarrassing. if anything, it says that you've got a strong spirit---which goes a long way when you find your soulmate.

[hwillis8]

Yeah, plus virginity is sacred, thats like giving yourself to someone else! :(

[PhoenXIII]

Hong-Fire has 36 girls at least!! HURRAY!!!!!!!! time for me to "hit on" them... jkn XD

[siropantumi]

I recently worked a blue-collar job where I received frequent inquiries into my sexual history. I think people assume virginity in males indicates an inability to please women, or a corrupted sexuality directed away from "real-life" partners.

[Zephyred]

Haha... Lets just say I wasn't embarassed to admit I was a virgin. I saved my first kiss and my virginity. :D My first kiss went to my closest female friend because she like me a lot, but I didn't go out with her. I rather save my virginity, even though it sounds funny as a guy, that with someone I would be with forever. It's more of that mental bond...

[WiseGuise]

My view on this: Im a guy, and Im a virgin. Im not gonne lose it before I get married. Sex is something sacred, and Im only gonne share that with my soulmate. Im a guy with very strict morals and values, Ive kept my virginity even tho ive been through some really weird experiences... (*uhem... girl once told me to it to her now or shes gonne yell "rape"...*) Not that Im bragging or anything (When i reread my post it almost seems that way, but Im just laying out my view).

I dont go out and critisize ppl, but somewhere inside me, I get this sharp stinging sensation when I see these beautiful girls, going around having these "flavour of the week" relationships, when they could do so much better... (This not meaning me, beauty isnt the only thing that attracts me to women, tho I must admit, I like a pretty girl just as much as the next guy)
This has always been a topic Ive felt strongly about, but I dont think Ima post everything on here lol, think my post would range in access of like 10 pages lol.

[LightMooCow]

I think the number of guys and girls that answered this poll says something... -_-;;

[Kaktyc]

Im a virgin :P
Id say that my morals look like a high stone fence with electrical wires on the top :)
Even then, i don't think that i would engage with just anyone to lose it. This seems stupid at the least.
What i don't like is people asking me whether i have a GF or other "relationship" related stuff, like "Why do you care?", i despise that sort of buddy-wannabies, they seem gay to me, and to me, gay = bad. Mistake of the nature. I mean im fine with them existing in this world, as long as they don't try to be close to me.
W/E happens most of the time I would acknowledge my virginity and be proud of it :)

[ZuruZuru]

Please stop resurrecting old threads Cow and read the HF official rules while you're at it.
You've already violated it SEVERAL times already.