Something about girls..

[zer0kage]

Hey there. For those who know me I love them silent girls. I shouldn't really compare but are there really girls in real life like REi Ayanami that sort?

Hmm Rei is too emotionless.. I mean I like girls who appear silent from the outside and when they speak they have a cool tone in them but in the inside they have many thoughts and feelings bottled up within them. However if they develop a strong relationship with someone they become more open to that person. Heck a smile and a laugh from them is so cute and is a sincere display of their emotions from the heart.
eg Blanc Neige from Shining Tears....if you know what I'm talking about.

I want a gf like that and become a key to their heart. The question is are there girls in real life that fit the description above?

[burnout]

been watching too much school romance anime recently? :D

sure there are such girls but in my experiences, most of the time they're book worms with no social life or they're messed up in the head. and they're the clingy type and will turn pyscho if you dump her for a hotter chick.

also kinda really hard to approach one. there will be alot of arkward silent moments and you damn well better be a someone who talks alot cuz you'll be the one doing all the talking.

[zer0kage]

most of the time they're book worms with no social life

I'm not after nerdy girls you know. :)

More info and hints please? I will like to hear things and hints from the girl's side too.

[NeoBloom]

I mean I like girls who appear silent from the outside and when they speak they have a cool tone in them but in the inside they have many thoughts and feelings bottled up within them. However if they develop a strong relationship with someone they become more open to that person. Heck a smile and a laugh from them is so cute and is a sincere display of their emotions from the heart.

Hummmmm, I see what you want to say...maybe because I also like this sort of girl? :D

But I never have met or seen a girl like that in real life :(

[fujihime]

Dude, you've been watching way too much anime. You're setting up near-impossible ideals and you're going to be disappointed in the long run. Besides that, these ideals will bite you in the ass because you're passing over great girls who don't fit your fantasy.

There's really nothing wrong with a bookworm, or a nerd. I'm a ****ing dork who plays magic and videogames a lot. But I'm definitely not shy. There are shy girls in the world, yes. They do exist. And there are very outgoing girls in the world. You want a girl who can only show YOU her feelings... that just screams 'socially inept' to me as they take so much work to open up to someone. Sure, it may seem romantic to be the only one to be able to associate with her, but wouldn't that make your social circle very small? Would you want someone who looked only to you for company without any friends of their own? You'd get sick of that really quick hun. Especially if she starts to monopolize your time and you lose touch with your own friends. Wouldn't that suck?

On the less extreme of cases, we all have something to hide at first from people. Only my closest friends know certain things about me. It's a safety measure that we as humans take since we need to trust someone before we reveal something that can make us potentially vulnerable. Getting closer to someone involves trust, and as trust grows, the sharing of aspirations, dreams, hopes, and emotions grows. It's not just shy girls who have something to hide. I have a feeling you want to share the intimate details and thoughts with someone, more than you're looking for anime-like characters who don't speak. You can't expect that kind of trust to start off right off the bat. Trust takes time to build. The more time you've spent with someone, the more candid they can be about themselves and their sincere feelings.

As I've said in many other threads, there's no point setting up the perfect ideal. When the right person comes along and you just click, you'll know. You may be surprised that they are the exact opposite of what you thought you wanted. Don't limit yourself with something so trivial. Love comes in all forms, and most of the time, when you least expect it.

[burnout]

words of the wise buddy. you should definitely listen to it. take what you were given and dont be greedy about it. you might as throw your entire life away if you wanna continue down your current path

[zer0kage]

Thanks for the good advice fujihime especially the last words. Still its not I want them exactly to be like I want to be you see.

I'd *basically* just like my girls to be quiet, aloof and cool headed but sincere in a way. Looks count too. ;)

About the first case...I can just bring that socially inept girl to my friends can't I?

Ermm and about the nerdy girls thing is that I don't like girls who whine alot you see... I'm not being very fussy or anything but I just can't stand whining.

[NvadrApple]

I'd *basically* just like my girls to be quiet, aloof and cool headed but sincere in a way. Looks count too. ;)

About the first case...I can just bring that socially inept girl to my friends can't I?

Ermm and about the nerdy girls thing is that I don't like girls who whine alot you see... I'm not being very fussy or anything but I just can't stand whining.But that's what she was getting at...even if you find a girl like that, you aren't going to automatically like her! Her personality and the unique things about her will catch ya. So be a bit more open, because, as fujihime said, "Love comes in all forms, and most of the time, when you least expect it."

[Karis Fra Mauro]

Hey there. For those who know me I love them silent girls. I shouldn't really compare but are there really girls in real life like REi Ayanami that sort?

Hmm Rei is too emotionless.. I mean I like girls who appear silent from the outside and when they speak they have a cool tone in them but in the inside they have many thoughts and feelings bottled up within them. However if they develop a strong relationship with someone they become more open to that person. Heck a smile and a laugh from them is so cute and is a sincere display of their emotions from the heart.
eg Blanc Neige from Shining Tears....if you know what I'm talking about.

I want a gf like that and become a key to their heart. The question is are there girls in real life that fit the description above?

I've never seen Shining Tears, but I think I see what you are getting at. Some people seem to think you're being unreasonable, but I think it's simply a matter of being misunderstood :) If you are trying to say, strong and silent type, but not strong in the sense of being a rough tomboy, then yes I believe such girls exist. There was a young lady in high school I knew, by the name of Laura Yates. I haven't seen her since high school, and am sure she's married and has a different last name and stuff, so no problem giving away such information... Anyway she was absolutely terrific. Not, umm... Not submissive by any means, very much in control of herself. A pleasure to know her really, fits your type exactly. And my type, to be honest. I've only gone on one date in my entire life, and it was with her. I was actually pretty persistent then, but while she was kind and understanding my feelings were not reciprocated. Ultimately we went our seperate ways and parted on good terms. Still have the yearbook she signed. I was in a seriously dark place back then, and it wouldn't have been fair to drag her down with me anyway. But to bring it back to your point, if there's one person like that out there then it stands to reason there's another, and I wish you luck finding her :D

[zer0kage]

If you are trying to say, strong and silent type, but not strong in the sense of being a rough tomboy, then yes I believe such girls exist.


So nice...thats exactly what I'm talking about. So anymore advice? :)

[fujihime]

Thanks for the good advice fujihime especially the last words. Still its not I want them exactly to be like I want to be you see.

I'd *basically* just like my girls to be quiet, aloof and cool headed but sincere in a way. Looks count too. ;)

About the first case...I can just bring that socially inept girl to my friends can't I?

Ermm and about the nerdy girls thing is that I don't like girls who whine alot you see... I'm not being very fussy or anything but I just can't stand whining.



Never in my life have I encountered nerds being whiney as a stereotype.

No wonder you don't have a girlfriend. Socially inept girl will want you to spend time with her, and be a wet-blanket when you take her out with your friends. You'll feel like you'd need to pay attention to her and entertain her because she won't be social enough to just blend in with your social circle. I guess you'll just need to date one to really understand. You said you didn't want whiney, well, these girls are super high-maintenance and whiney and clingy.

<sarcasm>
Strong, silent type exists... but yeah... keeping feelings bottled inside is the healtiest thing to do. Really! :rolleyes: Especially if she's pissed at you and keeps it inside and avoids the problem. That's REALLY going be kept up forever and you'll live happily ever after with bottled up emotions! There won't be any resentment at all!
</sarcasm>

You'll be needing a lot of luck dude.

[theprophet05]

*starts to bust out laughing* wow if it coulnt be said any truer...if there is one thing ive noticed its never piss off a girl...they tend to hold grudges for YEARS....and here is the thing i was more or less looking for the same...and still probably am...but finding a girl like that is like trying to find a golden straw in a pile of yellow straw at dusk...you know...im not saying lower your standards but in reality you need to make comprimises...your not going to just have her drop on your lap or anything and once you find her your probably going to spend about a year trying to get to the next lvl because the selfdefences she will have will be tighter than an iraqis arsehole

[Biyabo]

LMAO Actually I've never met a girl that will fit your tastes. Nor have seen an anime, manga, hentai, or fanfic with one. (Am I deprived? jk) Fujihime, he really wasn't being stereotypical. If he had more detail for 'his girl' THEN you could say his ideals were too high. He merely meant a quiet girl whom he'd like to open up (NOT being hentai).

[zer0kage]

Fujihime, he really wasn't being stereotypical. If he had more detail for 'his girl' THEN you could say his ideals were too high. He merely meant a quiet girl whom he'd like to open up (NOT being hentai).

Exactly. Anyway.... know any methods of approaching them or anything? Must I be aggresive?

[A LaZy PaNdA]

Yep... There is at least 1 woman out there that fits a description of yours. Its just rare to find her because 1 in about a few billion? GG.

Secondly : I actually know a girl like this, cept she doesn't like to tell me things =p I do always ask her "whats wrong" just to let her know I'm tharr.


Thirdly and also and edit :
To approach them you should probably just be natural... Try to do what I do :

Develop a long friendship
"People that are together are eventually going to develop feelings"
My philosophy.

[Biyabo]

Be helpful and don't overdo it but when she looks like she needs something (half the time:) be the first to help her. But not stalker-overprotective-ish.

And forget I said I've never met such a girl. Just met one ^^.

[Karis Fra Mauro]

Hmm, advice for getting together with such a girl... Well it probably applies to more situations than just this, but maybe don't let your fear of seeming foolish stop you from trying? Just being honest and telling her (if you find her that is) that you like her is a good way to start. Even though things didn't work out in the long term, that did get me some success. It's possible to over-think these things anyway. I have a friend who likes a girl he does martial arts training with, but always says he can't ask her out because people are watching and the circumstances aren't right. This of course invites teasing from me, that if she says no and bacteria are watching they'll start mocking him, so better to never ask her out ;)

[zer0kage]

Hmm, advice for getting together with such a girl... Well it probably applies to more situations than just this, but maybe don't let your fear of seeming foolish stop you from trying? Just being honest and telling her (if you find her that is) that you like her is a good way to start. Even though things didn't work out in the long term, that did get me some success. It's possible to over-think these things anyway. I have a friend who likes a girl he does martial arts training with, but always says he can't ask her out because people are watching and the circumstances aren't right. This of course invites teasing from me, that if she says no and bacteria are watching they'll start mocking him, so better to never ask her out ;)


...I'm confused.

[Skizzem]

Hey there. For those who know me I love them silent girls. I shouldn't really compare but are there really girls in real life like REi Ayanami that sort?

Hmm Rei is too emotionless.. I mean I like girls who appear silent from the outside and when they speak they have a cool tone in them but in the inside they have many thoughts and feelings bottled up within them. However if they develop a strong relationship with someone they become more open to that person. Heck a smile and a laugh from them is so cute and is a sincere display of their emotions from the heart.
eg Blanc Neige from Shining Tears....if you know what I'm talking about.

I want a gf like that and become a key to their heart. The question is are there girls in real life that fit the description above?

Man... most of the girls I know don't fit that description. They tend to be outgoing and fashion-savvy, but at least they're fun to be with once you're able to approach them. Now I'm not saying that all girls are like that, obviously, like not all of them are approachable and I'm sure there are also some that fit your description, but damn in my experiences it's pretty rare to see a "silent type".

That's why sometimes I wonder if the cute, innocent girls only exist in Japan, or are the Japanese giving me a false sense of what girls are like, or should be like? Lol...

[Firestorm8880]

well, just a little note if you want to get to know those who study a lot better, and improve your grades at the same time: study together with them...a good thing would be to see if you can find them studying in the school library, then try and to sit together with them (it works especially well if you are in the same class as her). After a while, you'll probably at least be friends, and your grades should improve...killing two birds with one stone...

well, at least it was that way with my case (she was also an otaku, and was a very nice person), though she had to change school, so i guess i told her too early, and it kind of ruined things...T_T

[RyougaSaotome]

I know very few girls who are like your description, and the ones that fit it, are obviously just trying to emulate anime characters because most of their problems aren't actually real, but things they had made up for attention. Perhaps there are people like that in the world, but as far as I know, I've never met any.

[zer0kage]

Them being like that doesn;t mean they have problems. In fact I prefer a natural silent type. So ermm...next wave of advices please?

[Mai Tokiha]

Hmm... this is what it sounds like to me:

I want a socially inept girl with no life and no friends which I can monopolize all for myself with no fear that she'll leave me for someone else, because she has no one else to turn to.

You'll have nothing but trouble with such a girl. First off, it will be extremely difficult to get her to be your gf. If you should still manage it, she'll be *extremely* clingy, and she'll also be extremely jealous and will quickly get all whiney 'n' stuff if you don't spend your entire time with her. If that's what you really want, you can keep looking for such a girl, otherwise you'd better look for another, more normal one.

[zer0kage]

...Well are the silent but strong types equal to your description? A way to put what I really mean, a girl whose heart is covered in ice and needs warming up to melt her 'cold' demeanor.

[Draco888]

Seems you suffer from the classic "Knight on the white jorse" syndrome :D :p

[eMKa]

zer0kage I would suggest you a normal relationship with an ordinary girl,you then will see how hard is to maintain such relation,and with a silent type is much harder,with an ordinary girls you sometimes can predict their motives,towards you,but with that silent type you will know nothing for sure;I too after watching NGE few years ago were looking for my ideal Rei-type girl,but when I tried to talk or ask for a date some shy,silent,"nerd" girls in my high school the answer was always something like I don't have time,I have to go somewhere,I must learn for something and one girl just run from me when I asked her for a date,I was in that Rei-girl obsession for about three or four months,but in the end I given up,I just didn't have the patience needed for that kind of relation,and now I'm in a happy relationship with my current gf:)
Remember there's not such thing as ideal/dream gf/bf:D

[zer0kage]

...Thats not what I meant. Okay the type that chooses her words carefully and tends to be serious is a better way to put it...

[Mai Tokiha]

...Well are the silent but strong types equal to your description? A way to put what I really mean, a girl whose heart is covered in ice and needs warming up to melt her 'cold' demeanor.
Pretty much. Girls that are that cold require a huge deal more efforts to melt their ice than ordinary girls, but should you actually succeed in doing it, they'll generally switch to the exact opposite, as they lack the emotional broadth of anything in between. Think of it like the switch on a lamp - if you press the switch, it goes from full dark to full bright with no steps in between. Same with these girls, they'll get extremely clingy and jealous, and they might even get downright obsessive! :eek:
Back then in school, there was such a girl in my class, and I could witness this behaviour with my own eyes! :eek:
Are you *really* sure this is what you want?

[fujihime]

Hmm... this is what it sounds like to me:

I want a socially inept girl with no life and no friends which I can monopolize all for myself with no fear that she'll leave me for someone else, because she has no one else to turn to.




Hahahah! You took the words right out of my mouth Mai!
That's what I've been trying to say all along, but he still thinks that that would be the ideal. I guess he really won't change his mind until he's experienced it. I guess that's why they make characters like that in anime though... to feed fanboy fantasies.

Do you really want someone who chooses their words carefully? Seriously, that's how you'd talk to your boss, not your friends or lovers.

[backbraker]

Yop they do exist....my girlfriend is like that....with strangers she's kind of cold.....but when u get to know her...she's a totaly different person..my friends didn't like her by the first impression..but with time they got to see who she really is....it's her nature..that's what attracted me to her..

[Krabjuice]

There are all sorts of girls on this planet. Infact, theres every sort of girl, even the type you're mentioning.
Theres a catch, though, you'll never find the exact type of girl you set out for. They're always totally off, or a tinge off, and they probably live too far away. Thats luck.
But!
There is a but. Thankfully, theres a choice.
Unfortunatly, its not your choice. You see, depending on the girl's decision, you'll end up shifting your wants to match psuedo-perfectly with whomever or whatever chooses to copulate with you. You'll likely go through that sort of shift more then once.

[zer0kage]

Yop they do exist....my girlfriend is like that....with strangers she's kind of cold.....but when u get to know her...she's a totaly different person..my friends didn't like her by the first impression..but with time they got to see who she really is....it's her nature..that's what attracted me to her..

Wow you're lucky backbraker...

[Nii]

I would say the same, except for the fact that his nickname makes me worry about the safety of his gf with him...

[TheException]

Yup girls can act like that, but my theory is that any emotion-less girl can find a guy who will make her FEEL something. You just have to be the one (or convince her that you are tho one). And I love'em girls like that. It makes me feel powerful and special. Go "seemingly emotion-less" girls !!! You rock ! Don't ever change! ^^

[gluehfix]

These girls do exist.
I met her here on HF and we became friends.
Shes too far away for more... besides that would ruin the friendship but ... to make her smile, really feels great. :o

[Zefiriss]

I'd agree with Mai here. That is the only reason to focus on this special type. In general, people don't go for a type. I myself am usually physically attracted to one type - tall and dark haired - but that does not mean that every relationship will be with such a girl. Both I had weren't.

Don't limit yourself. And please do not abuse the self esteem of such a person. It's all fine for 'being the only one she opens to' - but what if she IS open now? What if you don't want it anymore? What if you want to open another? Dump her? The risk here is much bigger. Such girls are that cold for a reason, it is a means to protect them from emotional harm, usually subconsciously. (that's why some of them might get clingy...)
I consider it rather dangerous to specifically look for girls like that and not just wait for some girl to fit, regardless of her type...because if you go for type first and foremost, chances are, the relationship will NOT work out because you two don't fit in the slightest. That's a thing romance anime usually leaves out, you know? You then get away fine. SHE, on the other hand, is in a lot more trouble now.

*shakes head* Men :P

[Shiki]

I have a friend in real life who is like that, She is shy and quiet. ^_^ and she is a really good person... I still can't get her to speak out her mind but she is fun... plus clingy people are awsome >< and she reads allot. She isn't very social... but I still make her do social things.
So are there people like this >> no! So stay away. :D

[zer0kage]

I'd stay with her if she really does appreciate me and such.. I'm happy that she is like that since I make her ,'feel' and I'll be by her side.

REgarding Zefiriss' comment...
I dont want all my female friends to be like that you see.. You make it sound like I'll go and open the heart of one 'ice' girl, dump, find another and repeat. I'm not that type of person.. IN fact Im more worried on how my chosen partner thinks of me.



Ermm...I admit I'm 16, so I'm pretty young and inexperienced... Yes I'm still too young for love but I know how it feels to be the one rejected...Heck not taken in at all...

Still I must know.

Honestly...A few years ago,I ever had a crush on a girl but that girl is pretty flirty and such and is heard to have dumped her 14th boyfriend today...

A party goer, who loves to socialize, loves discos. Very pretty girl I say.

I'm moderately social as I don;t like to hang around with junkies who tend to be wild and stuff to the point they lose control and started smoking or drinking to the point they puked all over the place..

When I felt for her, I always wanted her to see my love and such but in the end I tend to look like some obssesed freak to her eyes. So I didn't qualify to even be in her list of ex-boyfriends. Well I was being myself but to prove myself I even almost tried to become one of those junkies but in the end I look dumb.

[zer0kage]

Now you know the reason why I have that ideal for girls... That doesnt mean I'll dump one that approcahes and confess to me unless she doesnt look good enough hehehe.


I am not after girls who are quiet because they are shy but it is more they are quiet because theyre being coolheaded, serious and have a 'I dont believe in others,' attitude which I think is proud.

I'd let the ideal girl see and believe in me by proving how much of a man I am to her. I have to do that without making others look bad too....

2 separate posts so it doesnt look like a wall of text.

[dcstz]

Interesting 'story' there Karis :) I havent seen Shining Tears myself also, but I also know a girl who used to work at my work (left a month or 2 ago) who fits your description exactly too~ Concidentially her name was also Laura! Exactly like Karis said, she is the shy and quiet/silent type, when I worked with her the first time, for 5 hours the only thing she had said to me was "hi" :P (omg soooo kawaiiii~~!)
Gradually after time we got to know each other very well and shared alot of stories and experiences we had... ah... the good times...
Sadly I havent caught up with her for a while either :/ been so busy with University *sigh*
Anyway, girls like that do exsist, but she was probably the first person I had ever met like that...

[zer0kage]

aloof, cold, introverted, detached.....

These are the traits that I seek in my ideal girl....

Btw I made this topic doesnt mean Im looking for a girlfriend now. I just want to know about things before hand.

Anyway the 4 traits I mentioned...May I have my last wave of advice before I close this please? Like if I am to actually meet one how do I handle them....or where do such people hang out etc...what to be aware of and stuff like that...

Any advice will do as long as there is no flaming ok?


*besides I dont want a raver, a hoity toity girl or a girl who fusses over everything like ewww this is so dirty and such.

[recca]

If you search for a girl like that just go too the store and buy yourself a Doll... she will have all the traits you seek...

This ideal girl of yours it's first impossible to find because she wil never hangout with anybody.. at school or anywhere... so explain to me how you'll do make contac with her.

If you want to find those kind of girl look for one who is always alone or for someone who nobody wants to talk to her... maybe it'll be her...

But serioulsly... you don't to hang out with a girl like that... like the others girl said I'm sure you can find someone better than that to be your girlfriend... you will have no social life with a girl like that... and if you find a girl like that maybe she was just to shy and in reality she was the complete oposite... shy girl and introverted girl it's not the same thing...

[Deucalion]

I gotta say that the goth girls are hot, might be the times I grew up in but... girls in fishnet stockings, in the leather, in the black lace, the darkness about them but still having a freindly enough attitude(most I know atleast).

And redheads, gotta love the redheads...

[zer0kage]

Well lets get things straight then. Someone who acts cold and stuff as a mask to their true selves. If I am to break through to her and she accepts me, I'll see a lesser known side of her that can possibly be opposite to her external self. :D

(Actually this should be dead by now :) )

[Koshiba]

Sounds to me like you want a goth with a mental disorder. Check the therapy clinics. Might find what you're looking for there.

Personally, I hate when people put on masks and hide their true selves.

[zer0kage]

Well if that mask (preferably cold, aloof hiding a warm person) is just put on because of selfpride then I dont mind. Its because if I break through that cold-mask by proving how worthy I am for her then its proof that the person truely accepts me.

Btw why goths...

[Deaded]

Hey man I have a suggestion Look for a nerdy girl whos pretty how bout that and their are girls who are not nerdy buty timid but after meeting you for like 1 week they pretty open

[Skizzem]

Pretty nerdy girls... hmm, reminds me of the valedictorian of my highschool.

[zer0kage]

Hmm..I cant really take the last 2 posters seriously. :D

School reopened (damn), and even more damn that I still cant find girls of my type.. :(

[Xebi]

Hey there. For those who know me I love them silent girls. I shouldn't really compare but are there really girls in real life like REi Ayanami that sort?

Hmm Rei is too emotionless.. I mean I like girls who appear silent from the outside and when they speak they have a cool tone in them but in the inside they have many thoughts and feelings bottled up within them. However if they develop a strong relationship with someone they become more open to that person. Heck a smile and a laugh from them is so cute and is a sincere display of their emotions from the heart.
eg Blanc Neige from Shining Tears....if you know what I'm talking about.

I want a gf like that and become a key to their heart. The question is are there girls in real life that fit the description above?Oh I'm sure they'll excist, and it's for you to go outside and find out for yourself.
No use hearing some guy here saying that he knows a girl like that,.... in russia.

Nope, that is never going to work, just go outside sometimes and find out for yourself?

But seriously though, don't try to make links with real life and anime, some limits may be uncomparable in real life and will set you forever searching in failure.
me though have been commented about a few times in real life to be a rei duplicate except appearance XD
irony that I have Asuke's appearance, redhead, slender but strong.

[zer0kage]

Russian girls eh?

Anyway I already said this many times but Im 16 so lemme be alittle idealistic in this but.. what about girls who have the traits of the Zodiac sign Aquarius.

Taken from a website

Aquarius Positive Traits

Friendly and humanitarian
Honest and loyal
Original and inventive
Independent and intellectual

Aquarius Negative Traits

Intractable and contrary
Perverse and unpredictable
Unemotional and detached

REad this if youve got the time please.
http://www.erosastrology.com/aquarius.htm

[Hesquidor]

I know exactly the type of girl you are looking for. She fits my general personality type almost perfectly.

I enjoy gossiping and going out with my friends, but to the general populace I am rather cold and aloof. Never hostile or anything like that. Civil, but curt. This is not because I'm some kind of emotional retard like most of the previous posts make out. It is simply because I'd rather not waste my time by making small talk with people whom I have no emotional connection to whatsoever. To me, it's a meaningless practice.

But to be honest though, zer0kage, I think you need to wise up in the head. You seem to have little concept of how relationships work. I mean, personally I am attracted to tall guys with dark hair. The epitome of the mysterious bishie in anime terms

In reality my boyfriend is tall, muddy blonde and is the life and soul of the party. (I guess one out of three ain't bad n_n). So why am I with him? Because our personality's click, that's why. We're both on the same course at Uni, and we both share the same interests. And if I feel he's dragging me off to what I feel is one superficial social event too many, I could easily go out with my own friends instead, or stay at home and study if I don't feel like going out. It's no big deal us going off and doing different things. 'Cause that's how we are and we understand that about each other.

So, zer0kage, you can't just say

[zer0kage]

So you're saying I should be patient and wait? :)

I dont know if its even wise to start stuff at high school..... I'm still pretty disturbed on how dumb I looked years ago when I had my first crush.

[Draco888]

LOOOOOOOOOOLLLLL
http://www.erosastrology.com/gemini.htm

......... :confused:

Hmmm, well.... :rolleyes: ...actually thats a pretty accurate description of me ... not entirely cuz i'm an early gemini, but...


Their mental agility and energy give them a voracious appetite for knowledge from youth onward, though they dislike the labor of learning
looool thats sooo me :D :p


kinda true though .... I want a woman that can "play" with me intellectually .... that can keep me interested .....

[zer0kage]

Alright recently I talked with a girl. She is pretty much what I'm after plus she looks quite good and is very slim.. nice. She only talks with her group of friends though she is the quietest of the bunch and... no guys seem to hit on her so Ill just take the chance. :D

Anyway the thing is.... ermm I know her as a classmate for several years and hardly talked to her over the past year. Think I have a chance?

Is it beter to flaunt my confidence or be the simple pserson I hjonestly am?

[TK.]

You have a chance, everyone does, but it could be a slow process, you definately need to talk to her a bit more first since you said you said you've hardly talked to ger for the past year. Get to know her i bit more i think

[migus_parvus]

The best way to learn is to try and even to allow for failure. As the people in the past pages have said, the girl of your dreams may not be the girl you will love, but the girl you love is rarely the girl of your dreams. There is nothing wrong with have such ideals, just be open.

Well good luck on the girl you found; just be persistent as the Little Prince was with the Fox. And yeah, be nice.

[Draco888]

You will never know if it could have become something beatifull if you dont try now do you ?

:p

[bladearm]

I know quite a few girls that fit ur descriptions...
o boy... they are even hard to make them friends... gf will be even harder...
try to get an ordinary girl first, if that proves challenging... the best of luck for ur silent one :P

it's a huge world out there... to find a girl that fits you the best is pretty hard XD
looking for mines too :P

[l337godd3ss]

Alright recently I talked with a girl. She is pretty much what I'm after plus she looks quite good and is very slim.. nice. She only talks with her group of friends though she is the quietest of the bunch and... no guys seem to hit on her so Ill just take the chance. :D

Anyway the thing is.... ermm I know her as a classmate for several years and hardly talked to her over the past year. Think I have a chance?

Is it beter to flaunt my confidence or be the simple pserson I hjonestly am?

Well, you won't know if you have a chance unless you try! Be yourself though. From personal experience, it isn't the best idea to completely change your personality to try an go out with a girl. Your true self is gonna come out eventually anyway, so why not just start out by being yourself?

Another thing: as everyone else has been saying, don't be so eager to only date girls who fit your "ideal girl" mold. You could miss out on knowing a lot of great girls if you do that. Why don't you just try talking with a variety of girls so you can find out who you 'click' with? (remember, just because you talk or joke around with a girl doesn't mean you have to become her friend or boyfriend!) Maybe you're idea of a perfect girl will completely change! :)

[zer0kage]

Ermm how do I be amusing to her? Like joke around and such..... Some guys can pull pranky things and the girl (not the one I'm after) has fun with it while.... I cant bring myself to do that. Will that make me boring to her?

Lastly... she is taller than me a little does height count? I hope I dont embarass myself. :) I'm 168cm.

[migus_parvus]

just be yourself. about girls being taller than you (i'm short myself), well, your just trying to be more than a mere aquaintance to her; so don't worry about that stuff now. besides, if you guys do become real friends stuff like that does not really matter later on. relax stuff will be bumpy at the start but you'll get the hang of it sooner or later (fortitude!). good luck ^_^

[bladearm]

just be yourself. about girls being taller than you (i'm short myself), well, your just trying to be more than a mere aquaintance to her; so don't worry about that stuff now. besides, if you guys do become real friends stuff like that does not really matter later on. relax stuff will be bumpy at the start but you'll get the hang of it sooner or later (fortitude!). good luck ^_^

agreed... build a strong relationship first before trying to go for her as a gf... e urself cuz that is who ur are, don't ever change for one person only.. (besides ur personality changes as u age ^_^) be confident too, don't stay quiet all the time since she's quiet :)

[zer0kage]

So girls what about your side to this?

[Hijiko]

Pretty nerdy girls... hmm, reminds me of the valedictorian of my highschool.

Wow... same thing here O_O

Ya wat the others said, ur be urself n establish a solid foundation with her first, get to know her n her world. Heck the girl u'll ultimately be going out with might be her friend that u'll meet @_@ (yes it can happen, be optimistic =D)

[zer0kage]

Oh my gawd what have I done? I just popped out randomly and tried to say hi to her and made myself look like an idiot.... I got weird stares from them...


Is tiiming important in this sort of stuff too?

[migus_parvus]

hehe, thats ok. At least they know you notice them. timing is important but if all you do is worry about having the right moment you'll just either be un-natural or worse not do anything at all. just act around her as you would normally do with your friends. however don't latch around her too much (it might scare her).

one thing to take note is that trying to get the girl outright without really knowing her is actually risky. The best advice i got in highschool was make lots of friends then choose from them (well it was more like things developed between friends naturally). Some girls don't like it that guys just pop up from nowhere and act friendly just to be their boy friend. So the best is just try to be friends first and don't think about it too much (yeah like thats possible ^_^). And yeah being persistent/perseverant and annoying are two different things, i know your aiming for the former; lest you want to be labled a stalker at worst.

good luck, just be friends first and see where it goes after.

[zer0kage]

Oh crud...she noticed..Do I still have hope?

[Hijiko]

U know u're starting to sound awfully like one of my friends.... (u're not him rite @_@)

U're picking out all the mistakes that u do, not something that will help improve relationships. Overlook these past mistakes n try to improve ur relationship by not doing the same things again.

Relationships mostly build on the tiny things that u do, not as much as the big things (but it can)

[zer0kage]

Where you live.

[Kalis]

zer0kage:
you sound a bit too panicky and insecure right now heh.
Relax, be natural :)
Stop focusing on all the negatives and being so self-critical!

The best way to build confidence in socializing is to just strike up conversations with random people more often. On the subway, a bus, in class, etc.
At first it'll feel awkward and weird, but the more you do it, the more comfortable you'll feel doing something like this, and after a while, it'll become easy to be yourself talking to anyone :)

Just my 2 cents.

[Hijiko]

Where you live.

Ottawa, Canada. This would be hilarious if u're someone i know =D

[zer0kage]

Of course not..

Regarding Zelfis comment. That girl doesnt liked to be talked to in front of her friends.

[migus_parvus]

guess she ain't used to it. just be friendly but not annoying. if you continually strike conversations with her she is bound to react (in what manner thats uncertain). Maybe its best to talk to her in a more personal level, some persons are more open when there are less people around.

[Biyabo]

Well I have to disagree with Recca, I think that there easily are shy girls who keep to themselves. Most likely though this would hapen for girls who were previously home schooled, girls new to the place from another country, etc. They do exist. But, good luck finding one *smirk*.

As your loyal supporter however, if you find such a girl tell me! I am on the same quest as you...

[krinje]

*pops out of the woodwork, punches zer0kage in the stomach and steals his lunch money*

toughen up!

[zer0kage]

*punches and headbutts krinje

I wont hold back my roughness when it comes to guys. XD Theres another girl I like but she is friendlier than the first choice though she is pretty quiet.

...Damn I wonder when my REAL dream girl will come....*sigh* I still want my 'icy,' girl...

[cyress8]

lol why cant i find girls like this anymore, there are none, i mean none like this in the college i go to, i want a softspoken yet outgoing girl but cant find one, im stuck with more thuggish girls or ones that have an attitude. (Goes out and search for a girl that could be his twin in personality)

[Satori]

HEY! Since when did bookworm = no social life.
Girls who know their way around poetry = sexy.

[Miyashi]

reading guy's talk really interesting.. hehehe :D
looking for slient type girl? yah... i know someone like that ^_^

well... I not very good at talking or making friends in real life ._. too shy i guess... but if someone get to know me well, then that a different story :D

[zer0kage]

What about girls who are quiet and have that hard-to-approach attitude.

[Redgar]

Time and patience my friend, time and patience.....

[Murrowboy]

I want a gf like that and become a key to their heart. The question is are there girls in real life that fit the description above?

That's kinda a dumb question.. 6 billion(if I am correct) people in the world with females deminating males.. So ofcourse they exist I am sure every possible combination exist.. but anyway Like somebody said before with the bookworms. Do you really care if their bookworms as long as they fit your discription? I mean honestly, looks play a major role to you or no? I know girls like that and most of them are impossible to talk to because they're just that anti-social. It's also hard to tell if their happy having a convosation with you either since they won't speak up..

Too many anime novels my friend.... Too many.. I wanted a girl just like that too except she'd be a total ***** to everyone but is quiet and gentle to only me cuz I got hte key to her heart as you want to say?? Asuka to everyone but Rei to me and only me.

[Donut]

What about girls who are quiet and have that hard-to-approach attitude.

Indeed one have met them at the bar. They get dragged out by there friends, and then you see a face you've never seen inocent cute girl, as you acompany them they are really shy and don't say much. But after a while they usually open up, not in a too weird way. But I guess they are just shy. It was fun to tease them a bit XD. Yes it is bad to tease people :P, but I can't help it.

But the majority of girls I've met on are usually just,... normal very open minded and laughs a lot (and drink -_-). Anyway bookworm ... many girls are bookworms, and who cares, All who meet me the first time thinks a whole different about me untill they come to my room filled with computer parts and anime/manga and all these sort of gadgets.

There are those kind of girls your looking for, but they are a fine and rare speciment so be on the look :). And on the way you might fell for a loud minded one, you never know :P

[Coaxial]

This has officially become my favourite thread in Hongfire. It's brilliant, inspired... I haven't laughed so much in years, or felt so young again. Feels as though I'm reading a biography about me or some of my friends when i was fourteen or fifteen. I love it.

Notice as well how nearly all the flaming is being done by the few (all too rare) female members of the forum, with a large amount of the guys playing the roles of the hopeful, somewhat kind comrades.
"Once more unto the breach dear friends", or words to that effect.

Ahhh, I feel so nostalgic. It's brilliant... or have i said that too many times all ready.

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Now that I've let that out (it felt gooooood), maybe I'll be a tad more understanding and caring, not that i meant to sound like some dick who's getting a kick out of reading about your dilemma's in love, but it reads so much like deju vu that it's quite surprising.

I would however like to start (figuratively speaking... started ranting a while back) by pointing out that women, in general, are amazing regardless of their temperament, it's all a question of how you approach them and of how they fit in with you. So don't get too cought up with YOUR ideal of a girl... chances are that the love of your life will end up being entirely different.

But do not let this get to you, go on, strive for her love like the knight in shining armour that you are, do not let futile concepts like probability, reality or chance get in your way. You are, you must have noticed by now, a paramount example of the romantic, cought in his own struggle to find his ideal, to find that one true woman with whom conversation will become irrelevant as your minds and souls will meld into one and communication will be carried out though the heart. I surely hope it works out, and to answer the questions of all those on this thread... I am NOT being sarcastic, I am merely pointing out that you are the embodyment of that teenage idealistic love that we all feel (some more than others), and that in this day and age seem to have been best expressed in that medium known as Japanese Animation (though i recommend you don't get down to some serious research behind the female ideal in manga and anime, or the historical, psychological, and cultural realities will fill you with such rage and disgust that you'll probably want to become gay).

But nevertheless, go forth, impress me, achieve your aim and prove to sad ****ers like me that it's still possible. But don't get me wrong, It'll be hard.

Your love for your ideal seems to be driven by some desire to protect and nurture. That love can be communicated with a gesture, by the way that she smiles at you, or blushes... perhaps even in the way she gently lays her hand on your arm, sending an electrical shock straight to your heart instead of long discussions and nervous pretter. Why tha calm, somewhat cold introvert of a girl... because aside from the fact that it's cute (or "Qyute" as a friend of mine puts it) it helps to make you feel needed. I understand that you don't want to monopolise her, it's just that the though that you should be there FOR HER overrides all logical thinking... because with love logical thinking is what will have you fail... grow old and ***** about how its impossible for anyone to achieve that kind of relationship.

Okay, what we have, as has been pointed out before it the the classic syndrome of the "knight in shining armour"... so all you need is a princess to save, preferably from herself for the inner self is always a greater challenge that the greatest of Dragons.

So find a girl that sees this in you and appreciates it. I find it cute (not the girl... but the ideal), and if she does you've got half the work done for you.

So there, I've said it, and can return to editing a short study on the Global Teacher Shortage... my latest study for work.

Don't take what I've said too much at heart, I just get carried away sometimes and can't help but spew forth more odd relections. So there.

So go forth, and remember... we're all behind you.

P.S:You may end up finding out that outgoing expressive girls are more attractive to you, one never know. So keep an OPEN MIND and never forget that rejection is not bad, learn to accept rejection, toughen up a bit and have fun. You're still young (then again so am I... I think) so ENJOY YOURSELF and don't wollow in self pity... all that will get you will be the perfect mindset to be an "artiste" (pronounced with a great Parisian accent).

Oh, and go buy NOW Haruki Maruakami's 'Norwegian Wood', a novel that you will probably love. Trust me on this even if you ignore all my crap above. Cheers.

[Murrowboy]

Originally Posted by zer0kage
Alright recently I talked with a girl. She is pretty much what I'm after plus she looks quite good and is very slim.. nice. She only talks with her group of friends though she is the quietest of the bunch and... no guys seem to hit on her so Ill just take the chance.

Anyway the thing is.... ermm I know her as a classmate for several years and hardly talked to her over the past year. Think I have a chance?

Is it beter to flaunt my confidence or be the simple pserson I hjonestly am?

umm what.. was that??.. You "recently" talked to her and you have been classmates for years several years? Why are you asking if they exist if she was right there then? Did you try for the past year?? Does she even know you exist?? Did you have her in mind this whole time and posted this thread to ask for advice on how to get HeR? I am confused but whatever.. take the confident appoarch, or your just another guy that's going to cross her mind for 2 seconds. Like fujihime said... Lots of luck man.. you'll be needin it!

[zer0kage]

No thats not the intention. Well one thing for sure is that I was too far away from her and too busy in the last few years.

Preferably if I can find that someone who fulfills my ideal more then Ill be happy.

[Murrowboy]

Preferably if I can find that someone who fulfills my ideal more then Ill be happy.

Uh huh.. Isn't that what everyone wants to do?? lol.. It's been..... almost 2 months since you told us.. did you talk to her yet? Details Details.. or you ignored her because she/you were too busy? ... ;/

[abimael]

impossible all girls are jatter boxes and this is real life(worst if u live in the USA trust me)

[Murrowboy]

impossible all girls are jatter boxes and this is real life(worst if u live in the USA trust me)

You are so right I am about to puke.. What part of US do you live? I live in New York.. Girls here are the worst...... Iam not a ****in clown, i can't keep them enterianated 24/7 but they'll settle for a guy who CAN then....

[sbeal]

meh.... dispite the wanting for a silent cool type girl, the best girl is always the one that finds u before u find her....assuming their anythign decent in terms of look/personality/ethics. ....that or i'm too lazy to go out hunting for an ideal girl......

[zer0kage]

impossible all girls are jatter boxes
....I dont care I want the opposite.

Regarding that girl Im targetting..We're in the level of friends but I doubt itll get more than that.

I wonder what about morbid girls...Not morbid in the death sense that is.

edit:- (OT)? Where did my topic about auctions go? Seriously Im really worried now...

[ribbons]

this thread is very odd... my best friend and a few other friends are a lot like the type that you are talking about zer0kage. it took me a good 2 weeks of constant badgering to get my one friend to put down the book and play cards with me just so i would shut up.

about your comment on not wanting nerdy girls that fall into that catagory, i pose the question of: what else do anti social people do but read books when denied acess to thier games? seriously?

but, knowing lots of girls like your discription of: icy/shy to outsiders, kinda anti social, but once they open up they are nice fairly warm caring people, they are not gonna go for a guy that can honestly use the pick up line, 'hey baby, you know, you're just my type, lets go out friday night'
they tend to take relationships of anykind way slow. normaly they are anti social and cold to others because of some deep seated trust issues

but really, you have to go back to what having a reationship really means: shaing your life with someone. so, you wanting someone that dosnt really have a life of their own dosnt make sense. they've gotta bring something to the party. you re gonna end up with some clingy girl and you ll complain that she is taking over your life and smothering you.

go out and get to know those types of girls better. you ll find them sitting, more than likely alone, in cornerish places, with a book or scketch pad. sit. and really get to know them first. friend that i mentioned above is STILL in love with one of her first guy friends. if you still really, truly, want one of these girls you have to become their friend first and foremost, and then, best of luck to ya to get any further than that.

[Murrowboy]

Pretty right you are. Damn zero's 1 of those.. tunnel version guys.. lol want 1 type of girl, won't have an open mind to anything else.. Yea.. GL.. I hope you found somebody already.. tell us if you do i'll keep this thread updated!

[zer0kage]

this thread is very odd... my best friend and a few other friends are a lot like the type that you are talking about zer0kage. it took me a good 2 weeks of constant badgering to get my one friend to put down the book and play cards with me just so i would shut up.

about your comment on not wanting nerdy girls that fall into that catagory, i pose the question of: what else do anti social people do but read books when denied acess to thier games? seriously?

but, knowing lots of girls like your discription of: icy/shy to outsiders, kinda anti social, but once they open up they are nice fairly warm caring people, they are not gonna go for a guy that can honestly use the pick up line, 'hey baby, you know, you're just my type, lets go out friday night'
they tend to take relationships of anykind way slow. normaly they are anti social and cold to others because of some deep seated trust issues

but really, you have to go back to what having a reationship really means: shaing your life with someone. so, you wanting someone that dosnt really have a life of their own dosnt make sense. they've gotta bring something to the party. you re gonna end up with some clingy girl and you ll complain that she is taking over your life and smothering you.

go out and get to know those types of girls better. you ll find them sitting, more than likely alone, in cornerish places, with a book or scketch pad. sit. and really get to know them first. friend that i mentioned above is STILL in love with one of her first guy friends. if you still really, truly, want one of these girls you have to become their friend first and foremost, and then, best of luck to ya to get any further than that.

Thanks for the advice... :D

Murrow boy its always nice to try and live up to your dreams. Besides If I really find and have an intimate relationship with someone who fulfills my dreams (I dont expect them to be exactly like what I want but maybe roughly) I have made an accomplishment and be willing to call myself one of the manliest men. :D

Damn Mai for making people think I want girls who doesnt really have a life of their own.......

[Murrowboy]

Everyone needs a dream.. too many people are alive these days just for the sake of living!! if you can't contribute aleast have your dreams and goals. Do whatever it takes to acheive them. Everyone needs a dream. What's the point of living if there's nothing to look forward to?..
If you read my other thread about "girls liking bad guys" thread, my dream is to marry a super model and that's probably more far fitched then yours! But still.. I can settle for a girl who comes pretty DAMN close. If I can only find a girl that looks and reminds me
of kanu.. (girl below)..

[ribbons]

Damn Mai for making people think I want girls who doesnt really have a life of their own.......

quite welcome for the advice. but i do have to agree with mai on this one. girls like that dont really have a life of thier own. my friend has told me that if i wernt around she wouldnt really have a life. just sit and stare at the wall. only reason why i still am freinds with her (besides her giving me food) is because i made sure she that she started to learn to do things on her own. she is still very clingy and protective of me, but she has learned to go and talk to people as well. she now brings her own unique perspective on life to the party.

i dont know how i can make you see this clearly. most girls that are distant, icy if you wish, have had some sort of major trauma or set back that has made them highly unstable, and shutting others out. if you are approching this kind of girl with the thoughts of ' i like this kind of girl' or 'this type of girl is sexay!' you are prolly going to more damage to them then good.

not tring to trample your dream. i think i really just want you to know what you are wanting to get yourself into, cuz you dont seem to be getting what we re telling you... but as long as you understand, it s up to you.

[zer0kage]

Sure besides its not like Im going to jump on someone if I find one.. Ill start off being friendly and show that I care for them first...

[p4lad1n2000]

Well, i would wish you a good luck zer0, since... as ribbon, or others states before... the girl of your type will take lots and lots of your time to build their trust... and I barely had enough for myself ^^a. Since I'm also trying for this kind of girl.... My one point of advice, is to find your similarities between you and her, and try to show them your good points and most of all, behave naturally ^^V.... And again... Yosh Ganbatte ^^a

[ShadowRFox]

Regarding wat zer0kage was saying about not being able to find any girl like rei aynami:
Yes I know a couple of them. It all depend where you look and how you go about looking.

[ribbons]

i really am not trying to stomp your dream, just trying to help. i swear to the pink bunny slippers i am.
anyway. just a note: some/most of these girls dont want a realtionship of anykind and, um, even go to the extent of killing any traces of hormones or feelings of like/love. so, when you find a girl, and after you get to be her friend, dont mention realaionships for a while... only after you know that you have her trust can i see it being safe at all. dont wanna see you get royaly burned.

hows it going with the one girl?

[zer0kage]

That one girl isnt really anything like my ideal...besides we're\ just friends.

Ive been royally burnt once years ago before I have the mindset for my ideal girl. ;) I was shallow and only liked that girl just cuz she was pretty and I acted totally out of character to the point that I made myself look ike an idiot.

[Shex]

The girls I go out with the cool ones break up with me in like 4 weeks after going out while the chatter boxes stay forever and I have to break up with them. If its one thing its a girl talking to me while during sex jesus christ I want to tell them to shut the **** up. Never **** a virgin, they cling like *****es :/ for example I dated a girl named Jessica, sure i took her virginity but she also got mine in return. I didn't care much it was a huge deal for her and she'd cling on me in school and its so embarrasing. A few months later I couldn't handle it any longer so I broke up...big mistake.... god girls can get revenge... she told her parents about me.... and they called. Thats all I'm gonna tell ya.... I got my ass handed to me by a 240 lb 5'4 guy, I got a few punches in, and I did hurt his ass bad, but he still has the advantage in age and in technique remember I'm 6'3 and 203 lbs

[Conrad]

Arr...
Shinxero, that's a different type of girl. And ain't one of those silent introvert types... yarrr....

ZeroKage, seems you got lots of advice from Ribbons. Just be very patient and sincer to the girl of your dream.

[Paroki]

Girls need to be 3 things:Cute,pretty % sexy

[NagaSadow]

Hey there. For those who know me I love them silent girls. I shouldn't really compare but are there really girls in real life like REi Ayanami that sort?

Hmm Rei is too emotionless.. I mean I like girls who appear silent from the outside and when they speak they have a cool tone in them but in the inside they have many thoughts and feelings bottled up within them. However if they develop a strong relationship with someone they become more open to that person. Heck a smile and a laugh from them is so cute and is a sincere display of their emotions from the heart.
eg Blanc Neige from Shining Tears....if you know what I'm talking about.

I want a gf like that and become a key to their heart. The question is are there girls in real life that fit the description above?
Thanks buddy, i havnt laughed that hard in ages!
HA HA HA HA HA HA!
ROTFL!
LMAO!

[NagaSadow]

Don't be such as meanie!
Sorry, but i have never read such bull in years!
It reminds me of the time i wanted to make a mech......such fun is had when you are blind to the ways of mankind!

[zer0kage]

Girls need to be 3 things:Cute,pretty % sexy
Beautiful is better than cute. XD

Laugh at me as much as you like NagaShadow but my dream is more down to earth than a mecha especially with current technology. ;)

[NagaSadow]

Beautiful is better than cute. XD

Laugh at me as much as you like NagaShadow but my dream is more down to earth than a mecha especially with current technology. ;)
Lol i wanted a mech so bad.....and a jetpack.
A man could do great things with a jetpack ^_^

[Vengeance]

Hey there. For those who know me I love them silent girls. I shouldn't really compare but are there really girls in real life like REi Ayanami that sort?

Hmm Rei is too emotionless.. I mean I like girls who appear silent from the outside and when they speak they have a cool tone in them but in the inside they have many thoughts and feelings bottled up within them. However if they develop a strong relationship with someone they become more open to that person. Heck a smile and a laugh from them is so cute and is a sincere display of their emotions from the heart.
eg Blanc Neige from Shining Tears....if you know what I'm talking about.

I want a gf like that and become a key to their heart. The question is are there girls in real life that fit the description above?

They exist, just that they are extremely rare/hard to find. Just like hot gamer chicks who actually knows how to play video games and whoops people's ass while looking good. I feel what you are saying and going through bro. Don't give up, your bound to meet one to your liking. P.S. you have good taste as well. :cool:

[rockzilla]

hmm dont have a gf so i dont know...

[Murrowboy]

I wonder if this will beat the "why do girls like badboys thread"...

[ribbons]

I wonder if this will beat the "why do girls like badboys thread"...
i doubt it... this is one guy and us trying to help him whereas the other one is a dicussion about a basic human instinct in females. it has also taken one helluva turn seince jinjin came... so maybe the thread has gotten away from the original aspect that made it popular? i dunno...

thinking of this thread...
Zer0kage, how s the search going?

[NagaSadow]

This thread is just painfull. stop dreaming!
Damn, live life!
Most people spend their entire lives dreaming but not i.

[zer0kage]

This thread is just painfull. stop dreaming!
Damn, live life!
Most people spend their entire lives dreaming but not i.
I am really busy with my A levels you know...So I cant really get romantic yet but once I get my As in my A levels and go to uni Ill then do the search. ;)

[NagaSadow]

I am really busy with my A levels you know...So I cant really get romantic yet but once I get my As in my A levels and go to uni Ill then do the search. ;)
I found the girl of my dreams.
She was a cross of auska/ tomo.
The ***** didnt like me, thats why i drink and do drugs.
Sesson time tomorrow!
^__^

[bunnywink]

My best friend fits your description, but she has such high standards in what she wants for a guy. I mean, she's only had one boyfriend once. And her next must be truly exceptional. I've been best friends with her since I was 3, so it's really easy for her to open up to me, but she's very aloof towards strangers and has a really hard time getting comfortable with new people. The only people she really opens up to are her family and my family, as we've been together for some time now.

Good luck finding your ideal girl. But don't close your eyes to other types of girls. I'm not sure how many girlfriends you've had, but it's always best to experiment. I mean, you can't say you hate ice cream if you haven't had a taste of it yet. n_n

[zer0kage]

....Wow that sounds lovely..

Before that I must be developed well as a man and prove I have the brains, brawn and heart to that friend of yours or girls like her one day. :D

I have friends who are girls though but no intimate relationships so far.

[Murrowboy]

your not beating the badboy thread ZeroKage!!! I hope your thread burns!!!!....

[Blade Runner]

Yeah, me too! Let it burn!!!!!!!

[zer0kage]

Ha at least I did well for a one man army!

[localsonlynj]

Personally, i believe that god put another person on this earth who was basically "meant" for the other. We have one life to live and to get this person, but the key is somtimes to let that person come to you. i havn't been "looking" for girls because i have a helluva while to go before i need one, and girlfriends are great, but the whole temporary relationship thing doesn't appeal to me. don't always go looking for love because the right person may just be standing outside, waiting for you to notice them. As fujihime said "When the right person comes along and you just click, you'll know. You may be surprised that they are the exact opposite of what you thought you wanted."

[Conrad]

your not beating the badboy thread ZeroKage!!! I hope your thread burns!!!!....

Yarrrr.....
I smell something burning..... did somebody grilled a love steak? :D

[Itzcoatl]

well my girl freind is really shy i mean reaaaaaally shy when someome speak to us in street to ask for a direcction or something like that she hides behind me whit a scared cat face (by the way she dont like anime T-T) and adding shes really cute
i cant ask for anymore well i wish she coudl stop to beign too shy (dating for about 2 years and she still shy at this day and talk too low that desesperate me sometimes)

[zer0kage]

I prefer quiet in a form of snobbery not really shy. :D Itzcoatl's girlffriend isnt really what I seek... I mean someone more like Bunnywink's friend though I doubt she is snobbish no offence Bunnywink.

[Murrowboy]

Oh great now you got jin on your thread too.. Stop stealing our posters damn you!!
Your thread is too selfish!! :D

[Psycho Mantis]

I would also like a girl who is quiet,and such.I dont like girls who are loud,and want to party.Its a shame that its rare to find any girls who are just happy being home.

Im not social either,its a damn shame you have to be social to get a girl.Oh well...back to searching the internet for mail order brides...

[zer0kage]

I'm average in terms of social not a party goer neither a loner but I enjoy my privacy. I find that better than to spout nonsense at times. I observe before making any move.

[Riven]

There are indeed girls like that in the world; I myself used to be one of them. I guess some would say I still am, but I'm a *little* more outgoing than I used to be. I was never really a book nerd, but I was very quiet and very shy.. but that's not to say there wasn't a tough gal on the inside. I'm not very social, except for around my close friends.

People always assume people who are kind of quiet and passive are always submissive to others. This isn't really true. While I am a generally quiet and seemingly very passive person, I have a feisty little devil inside of me that comes out around the right person at the right time. ;)

[Murrowboy]

something needs to be done about you zero.. you are... becoming a minor trait.....

[zer0kage]

something needs to be done about you zero.. you are... becoming a minor trait.....
Like how? I'm still fine. I'm really nothing much like my 4chan persona you know. :D



People always assume people who are kind of quiet and passive are always submissive to others.
I see but still its sometimes people are quiet because theyre dwelling up in their own thoughts.

[Psycho Mantis]

Personally girls are starting to bother me,more and more.If god has indeed special ones for each and every person on earth,i would really want mine now.